What now?

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What now?
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Sun, 06-26-2005 - 10:55pm
Met a guy, had a great date... so what now? I wasn't going to call him, but am surprised he didn't call me tonight as we've spoken almost every night since we met... The date went well--2 hour lunch and had a lot of laughs. So should I be worrying that he hasn't called?

Kerry


If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting... -- Les Brown

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In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 3:41pm

LOL Sheri! This is me (probably) over-analyzing the situation... He really hasn't done anything too far off just yet... Except not ask me for a second date this morning!!!


But, it may be that he's just not *that* into me though he's been emailing me back and forth all day. :)

Kerry


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In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 3:44pm

He did say we should do it again... just didn't confirm a date yesterday... Just so ya know. :)


And no, I don't like indecisiveness either...

Kerry


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In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 3:50pm

I would have said, great, me too - what day did you have in mind however I prefer him asking me but since he suggested it ...... throw it out there and see what you get.

Keep us posted.

 
 
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In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 3:52pm

Good idea... next time I'll try to do that! :)


Hey maybe I could give you guys his number and ya'll find out what the deal is? hehe Kidding!


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Registered: 03-17-2005
In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 5:38pm
This is crazy. The guy's been emailing you all day and the one thing he's not asking is what's driving you bananas. Didn't you just go out yesterday? I say relax - it'll happen.
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In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 5:41pm
No kidding, I love all the advice that he's a wimp and he's this and that. Give me a break they just went out, it's no wonder women and men haven't a clue you got women writing off men just because he didn't immediately ask for another date. Good grief.
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In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 5:54pm

Well, anyone I've ever dated for any length of time has asked me out again right away (either while still on the first date, or within no more than a day after the first date). OTOH, I've had PLENTY of guys never ask me out again after what I thought was a good date, who behaved exactly like this guy. A guy who's really interested in you wants to SEE you; he doesn't want to just chat on the phone with you!

In any event, my approach would give him 2 more phone calls to ask her out. If he's not doing it by then, then IMO he's just not all that interested.

YMMV, but that's been my experience, and that of quite a few other women I know. My guy friends also tell me they are not going to let someone they are really interested in "get away" so to speak...they want her to KNOW they are interested, so they ask her out again.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 6:28pm

THEY JUST WENT OUT YESTERDAY

Maybe he hasn't really had a chance, maybe he doesn't want to do it at work and will wait until later on tonight!

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In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 6:33pm

I realize that, Dee, no need to shout ;-)!

I'm just sayin', this has been my experience, and that of many others I know. Take it FWIW.

Edited to add: I stand by what I posted in my first post in this thread, that it's not worth worrying about. If he's interested, he'll ask her out; if he isn't, he won't. The later post was mainly responding to what BC said about thinking that she may have given him mixed messages, and I'm basically saying, that's horse poo. If he's interested, and he's not a total wimp, he'll ask her out.

Sheri




Edited 6/27/2005 6:39 pm ET ET by northwestwanderer
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In reply to: cl_bklynchik
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 6:46pm
He's a guy!! Some guys just don't get it. Remember men and women are wired different. He could be a guy who takes it slow and doesn't want to come on too strong at first. Or perhaps he has plans for the long holiday weekend and can't ask you out. If that's the case, maybe he feels like asking to see you next week now is to soon. He's maintaining contact, he gets points for that in my book. If he wasn't interested at all he wouldn't be calling or emailing.