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| Sun, 06-26-2005 - 10:55pm |
Met a guy, had a great date... so what now? I wasn't going to call him, but am surprised he didn't call me tonight as we've spoken almost every night since we met... The date went well--2 hour lunch and had a lot of laughs. So should I be worrying that he hasn't called?
Kerry
If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting... -- Les Brown

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OMG! I didn't mean to start any fights!
Thing is all of you are right... I should have a bit more patience with it all... and maybe he's not *that* into me. I need to stop questioning everything and just go with my gut... My gut is saying to wait.
My gut is also telling me that I over-analyze everything... LOL
Kerry
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If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting... -- Les Brown
Who's fighting? That's how Dee and I always interact, it's nothing new, so don't take it personally, I don't ;-).
I still say, though, that no "waiting" is necessary. You just go on with your life; if he asks you out again, great; if not, oh well! Que sera, sera!!!
Sheri
Ahhh glad to hear that! I was getting worried that we would need to get a ring, get some grossly over-sized boxing gloves and have someone carry around round cards!
I'll keep ya'll posted though.
Kerry
For great info on OLD, visit http://cl-jhoover21-ivil.tripod.com/
If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting... -- Les Brown
>>I'm wondering if I sent him a mixed signal b/c at the end of the date, he leaned over to kiss me and I kissed him on the cheek b/c he had just smoked.<<
Im more baffled for a different reason... if you didnt want to kiss him because he just smoked, do you think this is going to change in the near future during that potential 2nd date and subsequent dates??? Personally, smoking is a dealbreaker for me and i would not be seeking any 2nd dates...
Man you guys are hitting me tonight! In a good way...
I thought about that too... thing is... we really have a great connection and I guess I wanted to give him a chance. I think I was thinking that maybe if I didn't like him, then that would be fine... But I wound up liking him more on the date. Sounds stupid, right? Yes... that's because I am stupid! LOL
Hi Kerry,
I think what GY said about the smoking is right on. I am not a smoker and have allergies and don't do well around smokers at all, even if they don't smoke around me - it's still in their hair, clothes, their car, etc. That was a terrible problem between my ex husband and myself.
I tried to date one guy for awhile who I met through OLD who smoked and he would brush his teeth and still I couldn't stand to kiss him, his tongue still tasted like smoke. No offense against any who enjoy smoking, it just isn't my thing. So to me smoking IS a deal breaker.
But as far as him not asking for the second date, I think he is definitely interested in you, the way he keeps emailing and calling you, but maybe you might have to do as one of the other posters suggested and when he says he wants to go out again say and when would that be or however they said it - then if he hesitates, I would think he might not really want to go out again but just wants be phone or email buddies. But I say give it a chance as not all guys react right away to asking for the second date.
But there are times when everything seems so good and you get your hopes up and they vaporize, and it really sucks. So hopefully that won't happen here. I wish you much luck Kerry.
Sunshine
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