At what point do you stop "shopping?"

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Registered: 09-26-2005
At what point do you stop "shopping?"
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 9:48pm

I apologize if this has been brought up in the past -- I did a quick search but wanted more info. Feel free to pass along a link to a different thread if need be.

So the guy I met online (that I like very much) seems to be into me. We've gone out on four dates, and each time the conversation was great. Although there has been barely any kissing, etc (not an issue... yet) we do talk or text every night. I imagine there will be a fifth and possibly sixth date this week/weekend. Now, he hasn't come out and told me directly, but from a few things he says (and from the fact that he is always active within 24 hours on his profile) I strongly suspect that he's still "shopping" and perhaps talking to and even dating other people. Heck... I even had a date Friday night (that didn't go well). But I'm "shopping" half-heartedly because my hopes and interests are really with this guy. At what point should I (and should he) put it all aside and focus on each other? How do I tactfully bring up the fact that I might be a little irritated if he is still "shopping" after several weeks of dating? And do I even have a right to be irritated by that?

And have any of you had a guy with whom you were serious, who lied about the fact that they stopped looking on the dating sites?

Thanks, Tobi

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Sun, 10-09-2005 - 6:08am
I think that you can know in 20 minutes, possibly, if you are attracted to someone, but certainly you can't begin to know if you are a good match. Being attracted to some and even being in love with someone (later down the road) do not in any way mean you'll be a good match. My situation is living proof.
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Registered: 05-28-2005
Sun, 10-09-2005 - 6:19am

****"Ah, see, I wouldn't be spending weekends with someone after only 3 dates."***

My thoughts exactly....That would be way too much for me, too fast!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-09-2005 - 12:27pm

No...on all sites I'm familiar with, unless you actually *read* the wink/email, your activity date will not change.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Sun, 10-09-2005 - 12:45pm
Ok, I'm surprised about that....I thought that any activity, no matter which party participates is registered. Thanks for clarifying that. Food for thought, now.

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