What she "should" be

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What she "should" be
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Tue, 01-10-2006 - 10:24am

I was a little bored this morning and decided to look at some match.com profiles. I'm so glad that men have quit dressing us up in cocktail dresses and blue jeans but I notice a new trend in the laundry list that many men have in what they want in a woman:

She "should" act like a lady when she is in public, but in the bedroom she "should" be something else entirely.

What gives? Men have the audacity to order up women' proper behavior in the presence of company but she better have the bedroom personna of a well-paid prostitute? The nerve.

Perhaps women should start requesting bedroom performances that last more than a minute and erections you can bounce a quarter on.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 10:32am

You bet I demand erections that I can count on and

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 10:47am
It wasn't just "that guy". I looked at 5 profiles, 3 of them had the same request.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 11:04am

Ok then, those three guys (and whoever else makes the same statement) has the right to look for what they want.

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Registered: 11-08-2005
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 11:06am

This idea has even permeated the hip-hop music culture. I vaguely remember hearing the lyric ". . . lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" in a rap song before.

Can you really blame guys for wanting this though?

Meade

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 11:45am

Honey, I'd like a guy who is 6 feet tall, bronzed, gorgeous, fit, a millionaire with no kids and exceptional manners, a super dynamo in the bedroom, doesn't drink, smoke or gamble, and treats me like a queen. But I'm realistic and would never write that on a profile.

What you want and what is polite to request are two separate things.

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 12:03pm

"Plus I think it's good in one important way - it let's you know right away not to contact him because he's not your kind of guy."

ITA.

I think people are totally within their right to put that kind of stuff in their profiles. Some people may not like it, but they can easily ignore those profiles. The people who want this kind of stuff have a better shot of finding what they want if they make it clear what that is.

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 12:05pm
Hehehe...right on, Chamey;-P
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Tue, 01-10-2006 - 4:02pm
I think this is a common male fantasy -- I've had more than one BF tell me that it turned them on that I was so 'prim and proper' on the outside but not so much in private. But I go along with the idea that it's become cliche and doesn't belong in a profile any more than "I want a man who knows his way around a woman's body...."
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 5:55pm

>>This idea has even permeated the hip-hop music culture. I vaguely remember hearing the lyric ". . . lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" in a rap song before.<<

My 90-year-old grandmother advocates for being "a lady in public and a tramp in private." It's an old saying.

Maybe those 5 guys were just listening to the advice of their grandmothers, which can't be all bad. ;-)

I agree that sex should be left out of profiles. I feel like it's a given that we all want hot sex -- but not all of us want JUST sex. These guys might be telling you right up front that that's all they want -- saves you the trouble of a broken heart later because you won't go out with someone who says that.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 06-20-2005
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 7:36pm
Just a tip: Any man who posts this on his profile is not worth replying to. A good man, and a man who is worth your time, a man with whom something worth having might pan out won't differientiate at all. They accept you as you are, in the bedroom and out.

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