what should I do?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
what should I do?
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 3:37pm

Some might see my previous post already. Anyway, here is the story,

I met a guy online 2004, he added me online, but we never really chatted for long. When we really started chatting was Sept 05, this year, after couple weeks chatting, we dated for the first time, he liked me, he said. But I told him I would not have sex with him for 1, 2, or even 3rd date. I have to like someone know him better first. He said He wanted to be serious with me. So he called me sometimes or we chatted online. He even told me if he didn't hear from me his heart would break!! Anyway, our last chat was 2 weeks ago, he always online late, but that day was earliest for the first time, after i denied to let him see my webcam, we talked a bit, he showed me his work, then he logged off without saying good nite. I asked him if he's mad at me when he logged off. After that I haven't heard anything from him, no calls, he didn't even online any more. I emailed him after 4 days, he replied back said he's very busy at work. I called him one time after 2 days, he didnt' answer and didn't call back. So I decide to delete him from the buddy list, and email lists. No more offline message and no more emails (even the forwarding joke emails). It's been 1 week since I did that. Today, when I log on I got his offline message, replied, he tried to finish all this works, and he's not mad at me, out of the suddent!!!

For usual, even someone who is extremely busy, at least should have one call or sth. But he's like GHOST TO ME!! And his birthday was at last weekend!!

What do you guys think about it? What should I do?


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Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 4:17pm

I think the sooner you move on completely from this guy, the better.

I would not reply, and I would strongly suggest that you BLOCK him from emailing or IMing you.

It sounds like your ability to detect when someone is feeding you lines is a little on the weak side, btw. How on earth can someone "like" you, want to have a serious relationship with you, have his heart broken, etc, when you don't even KNOW each other??? It doesn't make sense, IMO at least, to continue to talk with a guy who would say things like that.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 9:37pm

Yes, that was what I felt too. His action didn't match with his words. If he really liked me he would not disappeared on me no matter how busy he was. I don't plan to reply him back and he's still off my list and email lists.

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 1:11am

No, no, no, you are misunderstanding me! You've never even MET this man, right?? So how can he "like" you? Something's not right if a guy is telling you he "really likes you" when he's never met you. I would stop talking to someone who said that to me, because no good can come from that type of talk, IMO.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 8:15am

I thought you were a "rules" girl. Why would you be emailing and calling him so much?

I wouldn't do anything, he's just not that interested.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 9:18am
We had our 1st date after chatted for 2, 3 weeks. So I met him once
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 9:22am

I am trying to be one :)
I only called and emailed him once on the 4th, 5th day after he disappeared.
Yesterday I added him back, and he was online he didn't even im me (even thow I didn't reply him, if he's intereted in enough he would im me)

So I deleted him and blocked him. NEXT~~~~~~

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 9:35am

"So I deleted him and blocked him. NEXT~~~~~~"


Good Girl.....Day.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 10:34am
Thanks for your support! :)
It's so easy when I deal with someone less interesting, when I have rush on someone, and he's not treating me right, that make me weak!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 12:10pm

Wait a sec, is the same guy who showed you his weenie on his webcam???? Please, please tell me it's not...

Sheri

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 12:19pm
Ahhh yeah...I do believe it is.

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