what should I do?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
what should I do?
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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 3:37pm

Some might see my previous post already. Anyway, here is the story,

I met a guy online 2004, he added me online, but we never really chatted for long. When we really started chatting was Sept 05, this year, after couple weeks chatting, we dated for the first time, he liked me, he said. But I told him I would not have sex with him for 1, 2, or even 3rd date. I have to like someone know him better first. He said He wanted to be serious with me. So he called me sometimes or we chatted online. He even told me if he didn't hear from me his heart would break!! Anyway, our last chat was 2 weeks ago, he always online late, but that day was earliest for the first time, after i denied to let him see my webcam, we talked a bit, he showed me his work, then he logged off without saying good nite. I asked him if he's mad at me when he logged off. After that I haven't heard anything from him, no calls, he didn't even online any more. I emailed him after 4 days, he replied back said he's very busy at work. I called him one time after 2 days, he didnt' answer and didn't call back. So I decide to delete him from the buddy list, and email lists. No more offline message and no more emails (even the forwarding joke emails). It's been 1 week since I did that. Today, when I log on I got his offline message, replied, he tried to finish all this works, and he's not mad at me, out of the suddent!!!

For usual, even someone who is extremely busy, at least should have one call or sth. But he's like GHOST TO ME!! And his birthday was at last weekend!!

What do you guys think about it? What should I do?


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 1:42pm
unfortuntely, !yes it is!!! :((((((
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2003
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 1:57pm

I haven't posted in a while, but have followed your story regarding this man and I just have to ask. Why would you believe anything he tells you? A man who will expose himself to you on a webcam has no respect for you and none for himself either. The reason you heard from him again is because you've contacted him, so therefore he feels that you are open to allowing him to continue with his lewd behavior.

What you should do is block him and forget about him? And then follow some of the rules that you have been reading. He's not relationship material at all.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 2:09pm

Thanks for your advise!

I do not belive a single world he said, but I just couldn't understand why some guy would say those kind of things, even they do not mean it!! I guess they have their own purpose. This guy is for SEX!!

He's the first guy I met did sth like that in the webcam! And I have no ideal why I still wanted to talk to him even met him!! Maybe because I liked his face!! We actually talked a year ago, and him sent me his picture of his ding dong by email. But we didn't talk much. 1 month ago we started to talk again, and he didn't remeber he sent that too me, he even said he wouldn't done that and he wanted to dig a hole to hide himself when he heard i told him that...........anyway, too many red flags, I am passing him and move on. I feel much better and I will be a rule girl :)

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 2:29pm

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I'm just imagining an email, Here is my ding dong and two chocolate cake pieces sitting there looking oh so sexy. ROFL

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 4:49pm

Ok...can you please explain to me WHY you didn't immediately stop talking to this pervert when he did that? I don't understand why you continued to have contact with him, much less MEET him!

I mean, if you were just looking for a sexual fling, I could understand it, but since you're not, why wouldn't you be totally disgusted and stop talking to the guy?

I'm not trying to give you a hard time, I just honestly don't understand why you reacted the way you did.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 7:16pm
I have no ideal myself either!! Even when we first met, he also met one of my guy friend at a bar. My friend told me he's not a right one for me. Seriously I have no ideal why I've had talked with him even after he did that too me. NO Clue!! Maybe just a spark or sth!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 10:09pm

Could someone direct to the post about him showing his weiner on his webcam? I have got to read this one!!!!! lol :>)

R.I.

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 10:11pm

Russian~

Can't remember where that post is, but if someone finds it you will just DIE over all the stupid and silly names we gals came up with for Ding dong!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 10:37pm
just search my name about it....
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 11:02pm

Good for you. He's a jerk. I bet next time you'll be able to put a stop to something like this even earlier....It really sounds to me like you know what you know, it's just sometimes hard to act on what you know. Better luck next time!!

Use "blocking" and non communication more liberally with the jerks!!

Kudos for blocking this nut case!!