What should I think?

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What should I think?
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Wed, 01-11-2006 - 6:08pm

I communicated with this guy (have never met) on emails and then on phone. After a couple of emailing, he said he would call but he never did. Excuse - busy at work. After 2 weeks, I emailed him and he apologized saying he would call me that day or the next day. I waited but he never called.

What is the problem with this guy?

SK

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 01-11-2006 - 6:14pm

Dating too many people to keep track, too busy in life for a relationship, he's just not that into you...

There are so many possible reasons. Bottom line, probably not worth too much of your time and worry.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-11-2006 - 6:39pm

He changed his mind, lost interest, is too shy and/or socially inept to actually talk on the phone, is really married or in a relationship...who knows. This is part of OLD, for better or worse. Personally I prefer it when a guy just fades away (rather than telling me he's no longer interested) but I know not everyone feels the same way. Unfortunately, we can't all get other people to behave the way we would each prefer ;-).

One thing that helps is having a bunch of other pre-meet conversations going. That way you're not so affected by what any one guy does. So get back on the site and send 10 winks (or whatever they are called on the site you use) out and see what happens.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 9:00am
He's a player and you aren't fast enough....just keep moving.He's not interested enough.
E
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Thu, 01-12-2006 - 7:00pm

He called yesterday and we talked for 20-25 minutes, he said he had been working for 15 hours everyday - 4 days work and then 2 days off.

Why couldn't he call me during those 2 days? Or maybe I'm expecting too much. He admitted he is shy..

Now what?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 10:47pm
maybe he had a cold sore :~) and he is trying to buy sometime
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Fri, 01-13-2006 - 12:08am
I'm not sure I understand you...??
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Fri, 01-13-2006 - 11:05am

It's a joke about another thread.

I say give him the benefit of the doubt for now but keep this as a little flag in the back of your mind. I know that I have been super busy with work these days and honestly, the last think I want to do at night is go through the grueling first awkward conversations and emails. So I'd cut him a little slack for now and guage his behavior in the future. If he shows to be very non-attentive from here on out - not calling when he said he would, etc. then move on.

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 8:26pm
there was another post on this board about someone with a sore cold who was too worried to meet a prospect so others suggested not to go and buy some time until the sore disappears.
So my guess is he could be having the similar issues :)
Actually I have breakout this week. (Stress, period, too much work...) and I have 2 dates this weekend. so not so excited either! but I have to go :(
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 11:29pm

"Busy with work."

Lie.

If he's interested, he'll call. If he's not, he makes up excuses.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 11:42pm
Busy with work is not always a lie.


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