What should I think?

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Registered: 04-11-2003
What should I think?
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Wed, 01-11-2006 - 6:08pm

I communicated with this guy (have never met) on emails and then on phone. After a couple of emailing, he said he would call but he never did. Excuse - busy at work. After 2 weeks, I emailed him and he apologized saying he would call me that day or the next day. I waited but he never called.

What is the problem with this guy?

SK

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 7:23am
He's just not interested enough to put in an effort.
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 4:56pm

For all intents and purposes, it is. It is 9 times out of 10 an excuse to give someone on why they haven't had five minutes to pick up the telephone and dial a number, when in reality what they REALLY MEAN is, "I'm just not that interested in you."

I'm sure there are people out there who really are just TOO busy to spend five minutes on a phone call, but I haven't personally met any of them.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 5:04pm
I must live in a strange world. It's not that I'm running 24/7, but most of the time, I'm so busy I forget that I wanted to make a five minute phone call. I tend to live for my job and forget everything else sometimes. Most of my friends are the same, so it's perfectly normal to me when a guy says he's too busy to call.


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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 5:43pm

It's good though to find out early on where a person's priorities lie. My job is only secondary to my personal life, so when I say I'll call, I'll call. And I expect the same from someone I'm involved with. If they can't take five minutes out to call me, I'm not going to be interested in someone wrapped up in their career.

But, like I told someone else, hey - that's just me. If it works for you, then do it! :)

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 5:59pm

This is going to come off wrong, so I'm going to apolgize right off the bat. :-)

Does your personal life come first even with it's a man you've never met in real life? I mean, would you put off something work related for a first meet? How does that work? I guess because I haven't seriously dated anyone since college, I'm not really sure how the whole balance works.


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Registered: 04-14-2003
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 7:11pm

If I have spent money on a dating site, taken the time to email and get to know somebody, then yes, I feel obligated to take things to the next level with a phone call.

I'm busy too, but I have a phone with me at all times. If one have wasted somebody's time enough with all this communication then yes, one is obligated for the 5 minute phone call. I'm too busy with work screams: "I enjoyed flirting with you on email but I am either not that into you or not willing to make the phone call to take this to the next level."

If you are too busy with work do you have time to buy food? Pay your utility bill? clean your toilet? Most of those emails take more than 5 minute to write.

Come on!

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 7:33pm

LOL, like I said in a previous post, it's not that I'm so busy I don't have time for things, it's that work makes me forget that there are other things I need to be doing.

And yes, I've forgotten to buy food before.


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Registered: 02-10-2004
Mon, 01-16-2006 - 4:22pm

Maybe because you haven't dated seriously since college.. But when you're really into somebody, you don't forget to call! Suddenly you are not too busy to pick up the phone. But for the OP, it's still early days, watch the feet, not the lips.

Coolas

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