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What Sites Are You On/Do you Recommend?
| Sun, 03-27-2005 - 8:47pm |
I'm on Match which I really don't like but it's the biggest one. I'm on AmericanSingles which is kind of cool because it has an IM feature. I also have a free profile on Yahoo Personals. I signed up with some of the Catholic sites because I was raised Catholic but those are utterly hopeless. I am not holy enough for these guys and for some reason only older men reply to me. There is something scary about a 49 year old man who has never been married and agrees with The Church's teachings on pre-marital sex. :-O
I was on another site that seemed to have a very low percentage of educated men. What other sites are out there?
PS: Not Eharmony. I have crashed their personality test twice. Too odd, LOL!

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>>Nothin' wrong with 40 year olds. Send 'em my way. Don't forget we have all ages here....lol.
KitB<<
We have all ages here and we all get hit on by "old guys" relative to our ages. I don't know how old the woman who posted about icky 40 year olds is but I am 35 and I get hit on by icky 50 year olds. EWWWW! I was even IM'd by a 65 year old on American Singles. If I am in a b!tchy mood I tell them off! That was just repulsive!
I get hit on by "young guys" too. 23 year old guys just creep me out! <--- In a dating sense, not in a general sense.
It may be an area thing but I get more lewd stuff from match than American Singles. What bugs me about American Singles is that you cannot see what a guy is looking for and he cannot see what you are looking for. I am a bit overweight so I will not innitiate anything "wink", "tease" or whatever with a man who is not open to that. I am too insecure. I also get a lot of men who do not fit my profile but unlike on match, I can't say they are not reading what I am looking for because it is not there.
That is one of my pet peeves - men who do not read your profile and then are surprised when you say no. I actually received a letter from a 49 year old Socialist who claimed he looked 39 - like that made a 15 year age difference OK. In short he was calling me shallow and expecting me to be turned on by Socialism. I'm suburban - the name of my suburb is on my profile.
It sounds as very few of us are happy with any dating site. Well, I guess if we were, we would not be on this discussion forum anymore!
I have been on Match and Yahoo for about 6 months. Everything, good or bad, that anyone has said..is true! I have met one darling man on each of these sites--I'm fairly well in love with them. I've had a few pleasant dates from each site (men that I agreed to date feeling rather sure that nothing would come of it, and nothing did). I've had LOTS of "ghosts" from guys who seemed to be interested in me at first. I've had lots of men not reply to my emails, and, I must admit, vice versa.
Sometimes I scroll through a hundred or more photo/profiles without seeing one man I'd want to date, except...oh, no, he's way shorter than me...oh, dear, this one wants a born-again Christian....and that cute one wants somebody 20 yrs younger than me. So I get dissatisfied, but at the same time I feel annoyed that I'm not getting more inquiries from men!
I have checked out a few other sites briefly, but didn't see anybody AT ALL worth pursuing...I think one was Matchup (or something like that) and then there is always Hot or Not! What surprises me is finding so many low opinions of eHarmony, which I would expect to be better.
I have a couple links for 7 day free trials at Yahoo Personals and Match.com if anyone is interested.
I just tried out Yahoo Personals (again) last week with very limited success and am going to be trying Match.com again later today or tomorrow probably.
Bryan
I actually was able to determine in the chat room that
1/2 of the women on americansingles were married, and just
playing games.
Although I did meet a nice girl there, out of town, but my
car broke down so I ghosted her. I don't feel that great
about it.
I've not decided yet about match.
All I have ever heard about eharmony is that it sucks.
So, I have never paid.
Jury still out on yahoo.
I think the real problem is arrogance. Women (maybe men, dunno) feel
since they have 3000 prospects as soon as they get online, they can ask
for mr. perfect, when they are very far from ms. perfect.
The best girlfriend I've ever had I met by accident online on a hobby site
not a dating site. But unfortunately, I didn't make the $200,000/yr that
her twin sister's boyfriend made, thus, I had to go. And yes, he dumped her
for being greedy LOL
But I still hold out hope for OLD.
<since they have 3000 prospects as soon as they get online, they can ask
for mr. perfect, when they are very far from ms. perfect.>>
This sounds somewhat bitter, sorry. I think most people starting out OLD feel that their choices are many. I believe this is naivity, not arrogance. Then after a period of time, after weeding out the losers, people realize that it will take some time to find the right match.
And about the post saying many women date guys strictly for the free meal. That may be so (I don't know MANY women online) but I think I can pair those women up with the men who are online dating strictly for sex. A fair exchange, wouldn't you say?
Being involved in OLD can toughen you up, but there's a danger of becoming too suspicious, too self-protective.
First, you are from canada, which I have been to, and
a country that I like very much.
It is much softer than here.
But I agree with you: the percentage of free meal women
is probably equal to the percentage of free sex men
responding to ads.
My main idea: this makes it harder for nice people to meet
nice people, because you become fairly suspicious/guarded/whatever
you wanna call it.
I guess my main idea: 20 percent of humans are ruining it for the
other 80 percent.
I mean, on everything, not just dating.
Does anybody disagree?
But I've lived amongst those 20% all my life and have not allowed my attitude to change much! I sincerely believe there are wonderful people out there, men and women, and that I will meet them. So I keep my heart and eyes open. I'm guarded to a point, but only while getting to know someone new.
I like Canada too -- well, 80% of it anyway!! LOL
I'm sorry you're having trouble meeting nice people. Have you given a thought to your must-have list? Perhaps something there is attracting not-so-nice people? This isn't a criticism. I've had to rethink my list quite a bit over the past year.
Good luck!
Yes!
I first changed myself to make sure I have
a really positive attitude all the time,
and extra positive when I'm out and about.
I'm hoping that this will subliminally
attract a positive person.
As for must haves I posted to the forum here
on the ideal things.
I'm actually really flexible in regards to looks/income/slimness,
and I am very much concentrating on a personality fit.
But that's kinda what I've always done.
I think the main thing is I don't meet enough new people in real life.
I mean single people, everyone I know is married, and only knows married
friends. ( I do ask if they have single friends)
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