What is a tactful way...
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What is a tactful way...
| Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:30pm |
... to say you already have plans on a night that a possible date asks you out? I'm wondering do you guys tell the guy/gal what you have going on? Or do you simply say "I'd love to, but have plans already... How about X.?"

I say the latter. At times I have provided too much detail -- like a birthday party, etc. and realize it's not necessary. For the most after you say, No or not available, the rest of the garble gets tuned out! (smile) Usually more established or committed relationships, you can provide more detail.
Sorry, I have other plans, or am not available is sufficient and then giving alternate dates.
It really depends what point we're at in the relationship. If we've just met (or haven't met yet), I just say something along the lines of what you've suggested...I have plans, but how about X or Y instead?
If we're exclusive, then I would say what I'm doing.
If it's somewhere in between, I may give details or I may not. I kind of play it by ear.
Sheri
I've only had this happen once that I can think of... when I was on my way to a second date with rollerblading guy, GG called and asked me out for a second date.
All you have to say is "That night is not good for me."
No explanation about plans are necessary.