What a way to sell yourself!

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Registered: 07-21-2004
What a way to sell yourself!
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 11:34am

Yesterday I got an email on Yahoo.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 9:44pm
Eh, I'd chalk that up to honesty. Well, the first part is worse than the second, IMO. I don't mind a man saying in his profile that he's a little overweight, but saying that you need to overlook his physical appearance - that's just too odd.







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Registered: 08-13-2004
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 9:47pm
I agree. At best, it shows very low self esteem.
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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 9:55am
I would be laughing if I didn't feel a bit sorry for the guy. My last guy was too heavy, but he had a nice looking face, kind eyes and a good personality (overall), so I learned that just because someone is a bit overweight, I could still be attracted to them. There is a fine line though in being a little overweight and morbidly obese. From the sound of this guy's profile, he didn't think he looked very good aside from being overweight. No, he does not have a good self image. He needs to re-vamp his profile and perhaps try to lose weight (hard as that is) if he thinks that is a real stumbling block to finding a woman.
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Registered: 11-21-2005
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 11:46am

Thing is, I'm a bit overweight myself, so a guy who has a few pounds to lose is all right with me, so long as I still find him attractive and he doesn't have a hard time being physically active.

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 1:56pm

I understand totally what you are saying. I need to lose about 15-20 pounds myself. My last guy was diabetic as well as overweight. His doctors told him that he might not stay diabetic or even need his pills if he lost some weight. And while I am not an exercise buff at all, I was willing to do some walking and was even considering buying a bike to go biking with him, even if it meant just here in town--no long bike trips, just local. He was not interested. I eventually quit talking about it.

I also think he had a bad case of depression going on which worsened as his life became more stressful. I felt like I had a losing battle. And while I still miss having this guy in my life, I realized I could not "fix" most of his problems. So, in some ways, I have a sense of relief mixed with sadness about this last relationship. But like you, I want a guy who is willing to live life and not let his weight or other life problems ruin his chance for happiness with someone. Finding someone who is realistic as well as "balanced" seems to be elusive for many of us. :(