What would you do?

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Registered: 09-17-2006
What would you do?
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Tue, 01-02-2007 - 6:42pm

Alright...I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months now, and I knew him a bit before (sort of acquaintences), but we really started connecting on a site that is similar to my space.

Well....we are stuck long distance for the time being (his work), but he's moving back early Feb., so we can be together. We are officially boyfriend/girlfriend, and exclusive, and are crazy about one another...

Anyways, my question is should I change my profile from single to "commited"? I haven't changed anything on my profile yet....he has put me at the front and centre of his top 6 friends list, and I am pretty sure he doesn't want to change his from single to commited for me not to do the same. I had a problem with this with a different guy I was dating a while ago....and it caused so much drama, that I'm actually just not wanting to bring it up at all. I'm a bit hesitant to change mine and him not reciprocate and then have it drive me nuts for no good reason, but at the same time I kinda think he is waiting for me to change mine. I would just put him at the front and centre of my list too....but I'm sure he would wonder why I changed my profile, but didn't put commited, lol. I completely trust him, and I know he's commited to me, so I don't really care that his says single right now...but I don't want him worrying about mine. This sounds so juvenile, but it is a real concern of mine because of past mistakes.

What would you do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 01-02-2007 - 8:52pm
IMO, this is something that should have been discussed when you agreed to be exclusive bf/gf. Now that you already have agreed and ARE, you might have to backtrack and ask about it. Just talk to him and say that it was something you've been wondering about on whether or not as part of your agreement of exclusivity if that means that you should change your relationship status on the website. Just bite the bullet and do it.

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