what would you think if...

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what would you think if...
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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 11:13am
The first question a guy you're meeting with for the first time, asks you if you were to get another job somewhere, what would it be and where? That sounds like a job interview to me, not a date or meet, whatever you want to call it. This happened to me. He previously asked me this when we were chatting online and then again when we met. I didn't really have an answer right away. I wasn't really expecting a job interview. We didn't see each other after this for other reasons but it just seemed odd to me.
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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 11:38am

I don't think it's odd at all -- in fact, I'm almost always asked this in the form of "if you didn't have to worry about money, what would be your dream job?"

Your answer is full of insight.... into your aspirations, what you think is important and what you are passionate about. It can also reflect how ambitious and imaginative you are -- it's a simple question that gives the asker a lot of information about you.

Tracy

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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 11:49am
So what you're saying is that they could judge you by that question. If you don't have an answer, then what? I've never had anyone ask me this right away like this guy did so that's why I'm a little baffled by it.
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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 11:52am
You're going to get different opinions on this matter. Some people love these types of questions - and might even ask them themselves. Others hate them. I'm in the "hate them" camp. I really don't like it when meeting an OLD guy feels like an interview. I feel a lot of pressure when this happens. And it feels unnatural to me. I'd rather chit chat with a new date - or prospective date - the same way I'd chit chat with any new person I'd meet...like a new friend. I don't ask strangers probing questions - nor do I feel comfortable answering them.
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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 11:57am
That's exactly how I feel too joyouskaya.
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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 2:20pm
That does seem like a 'job interview' type qyestion more than a 'date/meet' question. I like to know a little about my date in this area, but my questions are more like, what kind of work do you do, do you enjoy it, what do you love/hate about it, is this the kind of job you thought you'd end up in? A lot of times someone's job/career is different from what they went to school for, which can lead to interesting conversation for sure. I'd rather know someone's *actual* story of how they got where they are today - includng work, but life in general - more than those hypothetical what-ifs. Depends on the person, I suppose.
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Sat, 06-25-2005 - 8:45pm

I agree wwith JK, I don't like those kinds of questions either. I would rather keep it simple at a first meet and wouldn't ask something that I think might make the other person uncomfortable. First meets are nerve racking enough without worrying about that stuff also!

Sunshine

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 1:21pm

So if they ask you these types of questions.....would that person be placed in the "next" category?

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Mon, 06-27-2005 - 2:42pm

Personally, I never cared for questions like that, either.

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Mon, 06-27-2005 - 3:06pm

I agree that these ones can be annoying! I met this one guy and conversation was a little stiff (just not much in common - thanks eHarmony and your 29 "compatibility factors"!). At one point, he even said something like "Well, I guess that is all the questions from my list." I was like, "HUH? Your list?" :-) It did feel like an interview.

But I agree that we shouldn't dismiss someone because they have a different style of getting to know someone. Maybe they are nervous and just don't know how to get started. I have had times where the conversation just seemed to flow and we talk about everything under the sun and then they'd ghost on me or we'd meet and there was no chemistry. So just because it is "interview-like" doesn't automatically mean it will be bad.

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