What is wrong with me??

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What is wrong with me??
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Wed, 10-12-2005 - 11:47am

I was only in "real" love once in my life.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 4:38pm

His sister wrote me this morning and told me that he got married yesterday.

Really nice of her. That was definetely something that you were better off not knowing. Sounds like she just wanted to rub it in your face. How considerate of her!

I am really sorry that this happened to you. I was always happy when I found out that any of my ex-boyfriends got married, because then I knew I had gotten rid of them for sure. :)
But obviously then your situation is different than mine. Your ex wasn't ugly, stupid, personaltyless, shiftless, dull, and he didn't treat you bad like all of mine did. I hate to see anyone hurt like this, because it is one of the worst emotions that a person can feel. You seem like a caring person who is beautiful inside and out, and I am surprised he dumped you. Maybe this will blow over in a few days. You will suddenly realize how good your life is and all the good things that you have in your life. Right now your emotions are raw, and you don't have any perspective. You should buy yourself something special since you have to deal with this *&%#. You know spoil yourself a little. Buying things always makes me happy. Make sure you are getting enough sleep and food through this. Do not neglect your health. Well keep your head up. Vent her as much as you need to, and know that all of us here are supporting you and waiting for the day that you will come here and say I am so glad that I got rid of that loser.

R.I.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 8:32pm

Girl, there ain't nothing wrong with ya, short of mourning over a guy who was so stupid that he let a jewel like you go.


I totally understand your feelings though. I think of how it would feel if I heard about my ex (who I was head over heels for) getting married. It would definitely upset me.


Make sure you pamper yourself this weekend! Buy yourself some flowers, go do something you really love to and treat yourself extra special. And repeat to yourself: I deserve so much more than what he could have given me. (Your homework is to repeat that 10 times while staring in the mirror!)


And if ya need to talk, you know where to find me. *hugs*


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Registered: 07-03-2004
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 8:36pm

Absolutely nothing wrong. You were in love with him, for pete's sake. What has happened now is that you know it's REALLY over between you. That's all.

Wait, you won't feel bad for very long.

amjay

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 10:21pm
I agree with everyone else. I've gone through it myself. A guy I was in love with, but I know in my head is a jerk, gave me the crap about not being ready to be in a relationship and I hear he's involved now. Oddly, he still e-mails me from time to time and makes comments I think are inappropriate if he's involved. Also, my ex husband got engaged this summer. I cried too even though I don't know if I was ever in love with him. We've been separated/divorced for seven years and he was unbelievably nasty to me for at least 5 years after our separation. But that's another story. I think it's just the finality of it that is so hard. I can't stand that I let men who are so underserving get me so down. Hang in there. You have a great support system here.
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Registered: 06-16-2003
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 12:02am

Jodie -- I am in EXACTLY the same position as you. I totally understand. My exh is getting married this weekend, one day after our 17th anniversary. I don't want to be married to him, we're friends, but after 5 years somehow it feels like I'm going thru the divorce all over again! Is that kind of like how it is for you? All the regrets, all the "if only I had" ... all of those things are just washing over me again .... Remember that you don't want to be with him and there are better things for you...that is helping me keep perspective, and also I'm spending a lot of time at Home Depot learning how to fix things in my house (and checking out the guys who are showing me how!) Hang in there sisterfriend!

Hugs,
Sposa

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 2:14am

Sorry to hear this. I feel your pain. Maybe you have some unresolved feelings about him. I had that with my ex that I carried around without dealing with for many years. Maybe you need to look at your feelings so you can put them away. Feel better...

Sara

 
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Thu, 10-13-2005 - 10:30am

A huge thanks to everyone who posted!

CL-Truewild1969

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Thu, 10-13-2005 - 11:03am

Oddly, he still e-mails me from time to time and makes comments I think are inappropriate if he's involved.

What a dog! This is a real life example of why men can never be just friends with their ex's. I honestly wouldn't want to be friends with any of my ex's. That is my dating and breaking-up policy. Reasons like the above always make laugh hysterically anytime a man says that he is friends with any of his ex's. Friends do they think that I was born yesterday? Come on. You kind of have to feel sorry for his new girl that her beau is talking trash to all his ex's everytime he writes them an email. Sleazy skank gross boy! You really need to remove that slimy leech from your life.

R.I.




Edited 10/13/2005 11:05 am ET by russianintellectual
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 11:43am
I guess that sucks for those of us that don't believe in God. Our windows and doors are always shut I guess. HAHA!
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 12:23pm

I'm a little late here...but I agree with the other posters.

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