What is wrong with men?

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What is wrong with men?
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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 3:18pm

That could actually be the title of a book! LOL!

Anyway, this deals more with after things evolve from OLD into RL, but I'll place it in this category anyway. I've actually had 3 good dates in a row. By good date, I mean it seems that the guys (3 different ones) are into me, I'm interested in them, & they go in for the good night kiss...then...

The kiss is awful...no lips, all tongue, terribly forced for them. I remember having amazing kisses in the past with my exes & other guys I dated in younger years. Why all of a sudden am I finding men IN THEIR 30s who don't know how to kiss? It's a bummer because it's a total turnoff & I lose enthusiasm for a next date.

Has anyone else found a way to get around "the bad kisser"? And why am I finding them now, but college guys & guys in their 20s seemed to know how to kiss...wouldn't those same guys know how to kiss as they get older? Am I just hitting a unique string of bad kissers?

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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 3:22pm

Well, I get so turned off by a bad kiss that I'm afraid I just walk away...so that's how *I* get around it!

But honestly, I haven't had it come up THAT often (either in my 30s or now in my 40s). I think you just hit a bad patch!

Sheri

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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 9:59pm
I'm in my early 20s and have run into plenty of bad kissers. I have tried to stick it out but its never really worked, I find the emotion never flows if their bad kissers.
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Thu, 09-14-2006 - 11:19pm
my x boyfriend was a bad kisser, sloppy mop kisser bad... looking back on that i dont know why i settled for him. i wanted to "look past it" and did for 1.5 years. it may be a really bad correlation but he had so many other things wrong with him, that now, if a guy is a bad kisser, i will not date him.
good luck...you probably just hit a bad patch, as another poster said.
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Fri, 09-15-2006 - 12:22am

My last relationship she told me what she did and did not like about my kissing. I adjusted my kisses accordingly.

Kissing is as personal as lovemaking. Some like it rough and others .. for sex anyway. What a person likes varies as well. I find some like my kissing a LOT others.. well.

Mark

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Fri, 09-15-2006 - 1:30am

Funny you should mention this because my best friend and I had a conversation about this last night. We agreed that a really bad kisser is a deal-breaker. She was filling me in on a much anticipated first date with a guy she'd met at work and had been having this friendly and flirtatious banter with for a couple of months now. Date goes great, dinner, drinks, conversation

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