what's appropriate for Valentine's Day?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
what's appropriate for Valentine's Day?
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Sun, 01-30-2005 - 6:40pm
Hello, o.k. it's about the time of the year and I have this question re: Valentine's present. I met this guy online, exchanged several emails, went for dinner and his house 5 times in total. We've done hugs, french kisses and touching etc., but haven't slept together, and I don't know if it'll be soon or will take for a while. I just don't feel I know him very well enough yet. When we see each other, he always suggests what we should do next time we meet, but seldom emails me or calls me - I think he's getting lazy a bit in this aspect - he says he's too busy. If I email him, he responds right away but messages are always short. When he sees me, he looks happy and I think he pretty enjoying hanging out with me. I've started feeling this pressure of "valentine's day" and even went to look at some cards - I just don't feel like giving him, "I love you" cards with a bunch of hearts or roses printed, but I don't think, "to my wonderful friend" is appropriate, either. I really can't find any card which seems appropriate! I like him, but I don't know my feeling to him very well yet, and I just don't want to say, "I love you" yet. I think giving some roses or chocolate is a nice gesture, too, but I don't know if "red" roses is appropriate for my feeling, either. I certainly want to do something for him, but I am not quite sure what's appropriate. Should I go for red roses, even if I'm not "I love you" stage yet, just because it's Valentine's Day?? I think he likes me and enjoy talking with me, too. We just hit right off when we talk, but still, I don't know this should be the right reason to fall for him. Do you have any suggestion?? Thanks in advance!
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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 11:27am
I hate Valentines day. What a depressing day.

 

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 11:44am
AMEN!! And to make it more depressing it falls on a Monday this year. ARGH!!
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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 11:58am

Right there with you girls on that. Christmas was bad enough and now this "Single Awareness Day".

Maybe some pampering is in order........lol.

Lisa

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 12:03pm

"Single Awareness Day"...LMAO Lisa. I love that. No Sh!t!! I am in need of some major pampering.

Jodie

 

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 12:46pm

 

 

 

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 12:47pm

Count me in!! I could go for a pedicure. Prince charming might come along with a glass slipper and I want my toes to look nice. LOL!!

Lisa, I think you're on to something..."Single Awareness day", there should be one and we should be recognized. There's nothing wrong with us and Hallmark should let everyone know it!!

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 12:54pm
The accronym is SAD. LMAO!!!

 

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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 1:01pm
Yes, you pretty much hit the nail on the head Eric ;) lol
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 1:07pm

I think that even after a year of dating, roses are not exactly a great thing to give to most guys. If I got roses I'd appreciate the gesture, but I'd appreciate a nice card or my favorite dinner just as much.

Pass on the roses, get him a nice card that says something like "be my Valentine" or "Happy Valentine's Day" (you can skip the ones that declare your undying love and devotion), and of course get ready to call all your girlfriends and over-analyze whatever he gives to YOU for Valentine's Day. ;)

Also... it does sound like you might be worrying about a touch of HJNTIY with this guy- he rarely calls or emails you? Does he call to set up a date? How long have you been going out? Have you guys had the "I only want to date you" exclusivity talk yet?

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 1:08pm

LOL - so true!

I'll be honest and say that I'm scared to death to get in a serious relationship. I think I would rather be single. Of course, regular sex would be the best but without the feelings involved. I finally get it - men = hurt. I don't think I can go there anymore.

So I will celebrate on Single Awareness Day that I'm not in an abusive relationship, that I'm not involved with a bum, that I won't be lied to and that I won't be cheated on.

Lisa