what's appropriate for Valentine's Day?
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what's appropriate for Valentine's Day?
| Sun, 01-30-2005 - 6:40pm |
Hello, o.k. it's about the time of the year and I have this question re: Valentine's present. I met this guy online, exchanged several emails, went for dinner and his house 5 times in total. We've done hugs, french kisses and touching etc., but haven't slept together, and I don't know if it'll be soon or will take for a while. I just don't feel I know him very well enough yet. When we see each other, he always suggests what we should do next time we meet, but seldom emails me or calls me - I think he's getting lazy a bit in this aspect - he says he's too busy. If I email him, he responds right away but messages are always short. When he sees me, he looks happy and I think he pretty enjoying hanging out with me. I've started feeling this pressure of "valentine's day" and even went to look at some cards - I just don't feel like giving him, "I love you" cards with a bunch of hearts or roses printed, but I don't think, "to my wonderful friend" is appropriate, either. I really can't find any card which seems appropriate! I like him, but I don't know my feeling to him very well yet, and I just don't want to say, "I love you" yet. I think giving some roses or chocolate is a nice gesture, too, but I don't know if "red" roses is appropriate for my feeling, either. I certainly want to do something for him, but I am not quite sure what's appropriate. Should I go for red roses, even if I'm not "I love you" stage yet, just because it's Valentine's Day?? I think he likes me and enjoy talking with me, too. We just hit right off when we talk, but still, I don't know this should be the right reason to fall for him. Do you have any suggestion?? Thanks in advance!

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Wow Lisa-That is so profound. As opptomistic as I try to be, I am finding myself feeling those same feelings. I love the beginnings of meeting someone new. But the dissapointment of it not working out is almost overwhelmeing. The bad out weighs the good. A good routine bootie call may be all I need anymore.
Jodie
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I have a suggestion for you. This is something I did last year. I had only been seeing the guy for a few weeks, so I didn't want to get him a super mushy card or an over the top gift. So, instead I got him his favorite candy and he LOVED it!
One of our first dates had been at Disneyland and he mentioned how the candy store there sold his favorite candy. Those different colored and flavored sticks that sort of look like candy canes, but without the hooks. It was croweded that night, so we didn't stop and look. But I remembered he said that.
So for V Day- I went to one of the candy stores in the mall that sells EVERY kind of candy imaginable. And low and behold, they had about 10 different flavors. So I got him 2 of each. Grouped them together and put a big gold bow around them.
Then when he came to pick me up for dinner V Day night, (he gave me a rose) I said he's just a little something for you for V Day to let you know I was thinking of you. He was so suprised and loved it. He couldn't stop smiling. And to me, that smile was the best present of all.
Feel free to use my idea if you want. :)
I know! It's so sad but it's true. I find myself at almost 40 not really wanting to put my heart out there. It has been stomped on, cheated on, lied to, raped, smacked up one side and down the other. My brother has a great marriage but he met her in college. My two sisters could have done better. And my parents shouldn't be together. And isn't it that 60% of marriages now end in divorce?
I wish I was more optimistic but I don't think I should be. I think I should be a realist and just forget about a Prince Charming for me. I'm sure I can find a human sex machine though....lol!
Lisa
O.k. I trash the idea of roses! LOL.
>>You, too - Aren't ya a bit over-analyzing my case??<<
Yes, but the difference is that I was right. :P
Plus you asked us to analyze you- I have NEVER heard one of my buddies say "gosh, I hope that my date sits around and analyzes me with her friends". :)
Seriously, given that information... I'd say that you could get him a nice card that is sentimental without being all "I'm in love with you and want to carry your baby". Maybe some candies or chocolate that he likes, or a nice half-rack of beer. Mmmmmmm, beer.
It does sound like he's busy, but if he's making a point to find some time to date you despite all that stuff that's going on, I'd say he's at least a little bit into you. Quit worrying and have a good Valentine's Day! :)
I still say, don't do or plan *anything* until he actually asks you out for Val Day (and don't even THINK of asking HIM out!).
Sheri
Hey, thanks for the suggestion! I think some other people mentioned that, too.. does beer really make guys happy? really??!! that sounds like an easy pick!
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oh, stepping into a hallmark store and just standing in front of those heart filled cards embarrass me enough - I would NEVER get anything like you mentioned!!
thanks a bunch!!
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