What's the deal?

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Registered: 03-17-2006
What's the deal?
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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 9:52pm

Alright. Here's the situation.

Joined an OLD site and started emailing a guy. Talked with him on the phone before I went out of state for the holidays. Now I'm back, and we talked on the phone again tonight. It went great again (in my opinion.) But, he didn't ask to meet! There was a moment at the end of the convo where I thought he'd mention it, but he didn't.

He knows I'm looking for a new church and has mentioned his many times. He also asked me twice in two different emails when I'd be back in the state.

The only reason I'm thinking why he hasn't suggested meeting is because he seems kind of shy and secondly, he knows I'm cautious about meeting people off the internet. Maybe he doesn't want to scare me?

Should I just take the bull by the horns and suggest briefly meeting?

Any thoughts? :S

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 11:52pm

Yes...in that situation, the next time you talk, if he's not asking, I'd say something like, so do you want to get a cup of coffee sometime?

Sheri

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 11:59pm
I agree. I think you should mention going out next time you chat.
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Registered: 03-17-2006
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 1:36am

Ha! I sent an email right before I read your replies. I see no point in waiting any longer, as you've said. Maybe I'm a dork, but it'd be nice if he'd just do it. I've initiated the idea of the phone convos, and now this. But once we started talking on the phone he was all into it, so that's a good sign.

I'm learning so much! :P

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Registered: 12-18-2006
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 10:19am
Your are right, he may be shy or inexperienced with dating.If I like the phone conversation and the conversations keep going on, day in and out, I either say "would you like to meet for coffee or I stop talking to the guy. I want a guy who takes some action or he is not for me. Good Luck!