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What's the deal?
| Mon, 06-12-2006 - 9:30am |
Hello, my name is Jeanie. I've been reading the board for quite a long while but have only posted once or twice. I've been doing this OLD thing off & on for a couple of years now without much success due to the fact that there just aren't very man in my area online that I'm interested in. I finally met one that I like and wanted everyone's opinion of him. We met a few months ago and chatted occasionally. I got the impression he was a workaholic that didn't get online very often. We finally exchanged cell numbers a few weeks ago and started phone conversations. He's 3 yrs younger than me, and has custody of his 10 y/o son. And like I said, seems to work alot (he works for the oil industry). My problem is he will say one thing and then not follow up on it. After a couple of phone conversations, he says he will call the next day and we'll get together and meet over coffee. He didn't call. I didn't hear from him all week and finally friday afternoon, he called. I wasn't feeling well so I didn't answer. He left a "seeing what you are doing" message. I did return the call a couple hours later but then he didn't answer. He called the next day at the same time. We chatted and while there wasn't an affirmative time set, he mentioned coming over to my side of town that evening to meet me and also casually mentioned a local club. He left me with the impression that he wanted me to go with him but didn't actually ask. Well, he didn't come by or call after all. He calls out of the blue yesterday afternoon (sunday) and is at a nearby store and wants to "pop in" and meet me. Ok. He comes by. He's nice, polite. We talked briefly about several subjects: kids, ex's. etc. He asked if he could give me a kiss and hug good bye and I complied. Then, he asked what I was doing for supper or later that evening? I said nothing and he said he would call. Well, he didn't. I was a little disappointed to say the least. I should also mention the past 2 mornings he's left a "good morning baby" message on my cell. This morning I did text back "mornin'. what happened to you last night? I thought we were going to hook up?" but didn't get a reply. He said he isn't married. But I'm beginning to wonder if he doesn't have a woman stashed somewhere? Maybe I'm reading too much into it and the guy is just forgetful. I haven't dated alot the past couple of years since my ex and I split up and am a little leery of men to say the least. Wondered if you all could give me your thoughts on this guy? Maybe its too soon to access him? Thanks so much.
Jeanie
Jeanie

I would say "next!" about this guy...reliability is very important to me, and this guy is (at best) a flake. Plus, it would be a huge turnoff for him to be calling me "baby" at this point...dude, we've met ONCE, I'm not your "baby"!!!
One thing in your post really set off alarm bells though...did you let him come to your house for your first meet? That's a big no-no for safety reasons. Always meet in public--you can't be too careful!!!
Sheri
Thanks Sherri, I'll remember that. Yes, the "baby" thing didn't seem appropriate considering we didn't know each other. And the sudden "good morning" messages seem a little pushy and desperate. If we'd been on a couple of dates and seemed to have clicked, I'd think it'd be ok. But to start before we even met in person...
Jeanie
I completely agree with Sheri in that I would next this guy in a hurry.