What's the deal with online dating?
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What's the deal with online dating?
| Wed, 01-04-2006 - 7:32pm |
I am totally new to this online dating scene. Honestly it makes me nervous. I met this guy on Plentyoffish.com and we have just been talking on MSN for 3 hours. He seems really awesome and I am looking forward to talking to him again and even meeting him. How do I know if I have hooked a creep or a catch? And at what point do you initiate an actual meeting? Should I wait for him to? I guess I just have this idea in my head that guys using online dating are creeps and are looking to take advantage...(so why you ask did I create a profile well because my friend did and I thought well he isn't a creep so they can't all be creeps.) My friend met this guy online last year and he is a total jerk but she thinks he is great. The guy can't rather doesn't want to keep a job and he scams her out of money. So I guess I am afraid of the same. Any tips anyone? In part as stupid as it sounds if it works out I am a afraid of the judgement from people if I were to tell them how we met. I know online dating has become far more acceptable than it was years ago. Or has it?

I suggest:
1 - no more 3 hour IM sessions. IM is not a great communication form in my opinion and neither is email. You cannot really get to know someone via these methods no matter what it might seem.
2 - move to a short conversation as soon as you feel comfortable which hopefully is sooner rather than later.
3 - then move to an in person meet as soon as you feel comfortable which should also be sooner rather than later.
Usually a phone conversation or two can weed out most creeps but you might actually have to meet in person before you realize it. Most guys online are not creeps but you have to expect that you will not have chemistry with most of them either. It's not a bad thing but you have to meet a lot of frogs to find a prince. So you might suggest to this guy that you talk on the phone if you have too many more email or IM convos and see what he says. If he says he wants to keep it online, you have to decide if you want to be a pen pal. I'm going through that right now and I am pretty sure I don't want to be a pen pal so I am not sure what to do! Good luck.
>>My friend met this guy online last year and he is a total jerk but she thinks he is great. The guy can't rather doesn't want to keep a job and he scams her out of money. So I guess I am afraid of the same.
That's not because she met him online, that's because she was a poor judge of character