What's next.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2008
What's next.....
Mon, 08-17-2009 - 10:33pm

Sooo, I joined POF,,I did up my profile....

So what's next??? Do I wait for the guy to initiate the first move??
Lot's of guys have looked at my profile but no bites yet.

Any Advice??

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2008
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 7:50am

How long have you been on POF?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 8:05am

I just deleted my POF profile because where I am it is nothing but players and loser-babies (stole that description from my 8-year-old nephew, so you can guess the caliber of men I was working with...).

That being said, the same thing applies to most OLD sites: at the very beginning, you'll get lots of 'hits' due to being the new meat. Most guys will be grossly inappropriate, the types that send out mass e-mails.

This is the point that you might want to do some tweaking of your profile...read a bunch of men's profiles, just to get an idea of what you find attractive, what kind of men are out there.

Some think you should only wait for a guy to contact you. Personally, I do a lot of initial e-mailing, if for no other reason than I think it's a hoot and I am fascinated by who emails back and if I am 'rejected' the reason why (the all-time 'winner': rejected due to 'physical attractiveness'...by an overweight, balding guy!)

IF they respond, then I go back to the letting them take the lead part...I don't make first phone calls, ask for a meet, etc.

It does take a while, and as I said, you may spend some time refining your profile. Good luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 8:23am

I'd make contact with others, but you have to make sure you meet them soon enough so that you aren't wasting your time.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 9:56am
I'd say go for it and do some emailing. Guys are very flattered to be emailed first.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2008
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 12:44pm
Wait? Why wait...make your move!!!!