What's the nicest thing someone has done

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Registered: 07-18-2004
What's the nicest thing someone has done
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 1:28am

We spend so much of our time here complaining about the bad stuff that happens to us online, I'm sure there has to be some good stuff. And yes, I even think some of the good stuff could be creepy because it was from someone who barely knew me. But the more I think about it, it was just a person really trying hard to make a connection. So, whether the relationship worked or didn't work what has been the nicest thing someone has done for you that you met online?

One guy I had a first date with went out of his way to make reservations for us to have a pedicure. (yes, he had one too) He knew how much I had wanted one the last few weeks so he made every effort to accomodate me. Also, my college team was playing that day (go SC)and he had several dozen roses in red and yellow waiting for me. Like I said a little creepy because I barely knew him, but at the same time very sweet to have put so much thought and effort into meeting me.

No, I didn't every go out with him again.

Looking forward to hearing everyone's happy stories.

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:24am

Hi It,

How come why not? I was wondering why you all did not pursue a relationship? I know that sometimes, no matter how nice someone is, they may not be someone you have chemistry with, true that?.

As for nice things....well, I have only dated OLD, one man for 2 months(the others 3 dates or less) and he was Very nice about having things I liked at his home for me; my kinda cran/grape juice, coffee creamer..and he would Fix my Sunday morning coffee for me Exactly as I liked it...saw me do it once, and remembered! He is the one who told me I was EVERYTHING he was ever looking for, then dumped me by email....oh well, Bygones. He had, as I said, More issues than Life Magazine!

Also, the man I went out with NY's Eve--no big chem. 101 for me, but He sure felt some! He and I were talking as he drove me back to my car at the end of the evening. My son had called and he'd had a tire blow on his car. I told him where to go get my 'mad money' from my dresser to pay for it, it was an emergency, as he worked early the next day, he is 17. I said, just to myself mostly, "oh well, there goes the grocery money for next week", and he very sweetly offered to give/loan me money, and he Meant it!(i declined, but appreciated!) He called a lot the next 3 days, and I finally wrote him a very nice, "you are a good man, but not for me" email. We still im, he is a kind person, and I hope he finds someone who appreciates him!

I guess little things mean a lot to me, and I am happy with that! :) So many of us here Are just like that, i feel.

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 9:39am
Second guy I met online last year knew I collected giraffes so on our first date he showed up with a really cute stuffed Geoffrey Giraffe from ToysRUs. It was love at first site (it's now hidden in a bag in my attic after he dumped me on a voicemessage!) but I digress...And probably second runner up is the recent "non really over my ex" guy, after our first date it was really cold so he offered to start my car for me to warm it up while I sat in his truck. I thought that was very considerate. Oh, I also receive a HUGE bouquet of roses at work last year from a guy I was not interested in but he kept trying.
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 9:50am

I've had a couple of good things happen:

I'd been talking to D and told him how tired my body was from all the traveling I was doing. On our second date he brought me a bag with candles and body oil and bubble bath. I was tickled!!! After 3 monoths he just disappeared...now that had never happened to me!!!

I happened to be in New York on business and F viewed my profile. He was actually from NY. On a lark I decided to send him a note and he gave me his number. I called him told him I was in NY and would be leaving the next day. He actually came to the airport to meet me!! I was sooo flattered. We kept talking after that (he said he was looking to get out of NY) and then I figured out he was a major PLAYA!!! NEXT!!!

I'm almost hoping that K who I've been dating for about 3/4 weeks doesn't do anything...hey maybe he'll stick around!!! LOL

Claribeth

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 10:50am

The guy I'm currently dating (over a month now -- he was the one who I thought was standing me up and turned out to be cellphone problems) Anyway, after we were dating for two weeks I got a really bad kidney infection that left me in bed for days with a very high fever, he came to see me on a Saturday night instead of going out with his friends (his friend was having a party and I insisted he'd go to it but he came to see me instead) and when he arrived he had a dozen red roses with him.

I know getting flowers is not so much of a big deal, but when you're sick and you're feeling like the ugliest most unlucky crapiest person in the world and the guy gives you flowers, red roses nonetheless, I almost cried! Made me feel special when I was at my worst!

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Registered: 07-18-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 11:09am
Thanks for sharing your stories. It has made the rainy, gloomy day outside much nicer. See, nice things can come from OLD!
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Registered: 09-18-2004
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 1:57pm

my current BF recently came over at 8:30pm at night after he worked a long day , because i was sick. he brought me OJ, flu medicine and a bouquet of flowers.. It was the sweetest thing he has done. .. he even wanted to feed me. but I was not hungry.

one time he took me to the airport and instead of just dropping me off,he parked curbside, and waited for me to check in my luggage and get my ticket andmake sure i was all set to go.. I really thought it was thoughtful and appreciated it, even though it was a little gesture.

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Registered: 10-20-2004
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 2:42pm

I started an online relationship with a man that lives 900 miles away at the end of October this past year. At first his messages were in email format thru the website we were using. The first six weeks we exchanged over 300 messages. He is a very sexy man in his messages and I became very addicted to them. I've been divorced 8 years after a 13 yr disaster of a marriage which was my 2nd marriage; then involved with another man for the next 7 years but he died this past summer. All my relationships with men had been less than perfect - I am a giver and end up giving a lot more than I receive - so the last 7 years I figured this is the best it can get. But after he died I decided to hell with men - I don't believe in love anyway any more and all I want is the physical part - nothing emotional - no strings - no commitment.

So I began this really erotic sexual online relationship with this guy - it was perfect for me. No emotion - no strings - no commitment. He seemed so in to me - wanting to please me - I was hooked. We made plans to meet in January after exchanging a lot more hot erotic but also everyday emails - because it seemed that sexually I couldn't take it any more and I just had to meet him!

I have fallen in love. I didn't believe it truly existed. He is a simple man - my past relationships the men were so caught up in material things - and he doesn't seem to be - when we got to the hotel he had bought me roses - and also remembered that my birthday had been a few weeks earlier and had a lovely bracelet waiting for me. We spent three lovely days and extremely satisfying nights together and although I didn't believe that love really existed nor was I even looking for it - I fell in love with this man. I truly believe he is my soulmate and he feels the same way. We both feel the other is "too good to be true" and share many many similar values and feelings.

I had two other online 'relationships' that fizzled out after a couple of weeks. This man, though, kept on giving and giving and giving to me. Since I love to give, too, this has convinced the both of us that we were meant to be together and now we're trying to figure out how we can be together -