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What's the point?
| Sat, 07-23-2005 - 8:24am |
I've been getting lots of icebreakers in my personals mailbox. And when I reply I don't get any more responses. What's the point of asking 'I like your profile. Tell me more' and not even replying back? Is it a number thing? How many women they can get to respond to them?
And those who like to chat, but show no interest to meet. Wouldn't you think that after a few chats and some phone calls they're gonna want to meet?
I'm just bumming out. It's been 3 weeks, 72 messages/emails and no meets.
And those who like to chat, but show no interest to meet. Wouldn't you think that after a few chats and some phone calls they're gonna want to meet?
I'm just bumming out. It's been 3 weeks, 72 messages/emails and no meets.

If they are not paying members, they can send winks, ice-breakers, etc. but cannot do anything else until they join. This is probably why none of them are responding to your return ice_breakers. They are just waiting to see if they should dig into their shallow pockets ;)
Re the icebreakers, I would assume that at least some of those men sending icebreakers but then never responding further are not subscribers. They probably sent the icebreaker hoping you'd email them and include your regular email address (which Yahoo still allows you to do) so they can contact you.
I've never understood the chat but never meet mentality so I don't really have an explanation for you, other than speculation that those men have no social skills and so are afraid to meet out. I guess there's also the possibility that some of them realized the two of you aren't a match during your chats and phone calls.
I hope things improve for you soon...it can definitely be a discouraging process if you let it get to you.
Sheri
I'm getting abit funny about sending my IM/email out.
Well, there are a couple different schools of thought on that. I personally would add my email address if I were sending an email to a guy whose profile I really liked (and I have a separate yahoo account set up JUST for OLD, that has been carefully set up and reviewed to make sure there's nothing in it that shows my real name, etc.), but some people are of the view that if a guy is too cheap to subscribe, he can't be all that serious about meeting someone. I think there's some validity to that, but OTOH, he might just be taking a break from paying for a subscription as I do frequently myself.
I would NOT invite someone to IM me, but that's a personal preference...I don't like IM'ing with people prior to meeting them or early in the dating process. I only have a handful of people on my buddy list because I dislike the intrusiveness of IM'ing, plus I've found that guys in my age group at least who want to IM either just want cybersex or are into just chatting with a bunch of women and have no interest in actually meeting or dating.
Sheri
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That's where the block feature comes in. You can always use it if you want to discontinue communication with someone.
OK, I was really curious last night why no one was responding back to me. So, I picked a profile I was interested in (that I hadn't heard back from) and wrote him again with my email address. Sure enough, this morning I got 2 emails from the guy.
Now I know... Thanks everyone