Share some of your worst, tackiest, most ridiculous dates/meets from your OLD dating experiences!
Guy emails me, tells me he is a multimillionaire, with a huge house in an exclusive neighborhood in our town (true). Sends me daily emails, but all the time, his profile is hidden-he says he doesn't want business associates finding it (whatever). Texts me all the time, yet can never make a date, and doesn't return my phone call (returning HIS phone call).
After weeks, he calls me on a Tuesday and asks if I can meet him at a swanky bar near my house. I say OK. I show up and he is bombed out of his mind. Within 10 minutes he has his hand on my knee and becomes annoyed when I peel it off. When he staggered off to the bathroom, the hostess came over to assess the situation, to make sure he wasn't driving me home.
I leave, he asks if he can see me again...I say sure, figuring he won't remember this encounter. He continues to text for another week or so, and finally I say give it up. Two more texts and emails follow, one in the middle of the night. I respond the next day and his reply to me is "Sorry, I've met someone..." My response was, "Does she know you were texting ME in the middle of the night??"
No reply. Surprised?
Then there was the guy who ate all the condiments off the table with a spoon. Never saw that one before.
It would be my most recent one that basically made me decide that after a long break from OLD due to dating someone for
Ironically, that guy had fajitas, too. After he did the fajita thing (which he ate chewing like an old man without his dentures...dreamy) he took the sour cream, salsa and whatever else was on the table and scooped 'em up with a spoon and plowed them right in his mouth.
Oh, and the guy claimed in his profile that he had a website devoted to fine dining in the NYC suburbs, that he was a gourmet cook. We went the the worst Mexican restaurant I had ever been to (his raving suggestion). Bad food, bad margaritas, lame service, sticky tablecloths...
I have a few stories to tell!
I recently met a guy online but not from a dating site, we started talking and seemed to click!. We talked a week when he asked to meet, I said sure but you do need to know that I am not looking to date right now!( finishing up a degree and starting the job process, that's more important to me then dating at the moment) He says that's fine, you seem really cool I just want to meet you!
So I say cool, we set up a meet for the following Wednesday! We talk sparsely through out the week! The night before we are too meet he opens up to me telling me that he's currently unemployed due to a lay off( I understand it's a recession so fair enough) and he also has no vehicle( we live across town from each other so even if we did hit it off I knew dating him would not be impossible but difficult)
I agree to a meet regardless of what he's just told me because he seems like a decent guy.
Well the actual meeting lasted a half an hour! I was so turned off.. Sure he was cute, but he had the attitude of sour grapes!.. starts to tell me his parents are crazy( they defrauded a bunch of people through businesses they own and are essentially on the run) He's been assaulted 3 times( if i am ever assaulted I should just kill them) He wants to go to school to finish his optical training but can't afford it and would probably need a loan co signed, he's really broke and might be homeless and on and on and ON... Very much a victim rather than a survivor of circumstance..
He just gave me a creepy vibe,( the power of WOE is something incredible at times) the song that kept playing in my head in the short time I was with him was " I'm a loser baby so why don't you kill me" by Beck... I ended up telling him I had to go I needed to do some reading for school( which was legit I had just planned to do it later)
As Murphy's law would have it, the guy really liked me, as I was walking out the door he invited me to a bbq for the following weekend.. I declined!( he's broke how the hell was he going to pay for it? plus I didn't want to be in his company)
I get home later that night and he texts me with " I would so date you" I responded with a that's nice, but I don't want to date you..
a few days go by and I haven't heard a word so I think oh good he's moved on...
Well not so, he e-mail me this big long ass email, telling me that he thinks this relationship is all one sided and he can't understand why I don't at least want to get to know him and blah blah blah and he feels that I lead him on( I was quite clear from the get go when I said I wasn't dating right now) .. he's going to delete me from his friends list on the particular forum we are on unless I want this to work and so on and so forth...( I went ahead and deleted him first, erased his phone number etc)
I haven't responded to the email and I'm not thinking I'm ever going too... I really hate woe is me, passive aggressive personalities... I don't need people like this in my life... He's clearly far more into me then I into him.. just not cool..
THANKFULLY I only wasted a grand total of 2 weeks of my life on this lame duck!
that has to rate right up there as one of my bad OLD experiences even though it really wasn't a "dating" scenario
Weird: I once met a guy whose profile said he was white. He posted only black and white pictures. When we met he looked anything but white. Where was he from? France. But reluctantly admits that he was actually born in Persia.
Now, I am an equal opportunity dater but I was so put off by the fact that he tried to hide his origin...
Ugly: Met a guy who stood me up for a poker game, then bullied me into meeting him again, then couldn't take no for an answer. I was very new to OLD so I didn't handle it the right way. Learned my lesson since. Funny, when I came back to the site a few years back, he was still there, same (old) pictures and all. Emailed me again, but luckily didn't remember me.
FYI - that's not a lie per the EEOC.
That is all fine. But I am pretty sure there was a "middle eastern" or something category there. And to go as far as to post only black/white photos.
All in all, I have never seen someone as uncomfortable with who they were.