What's your positive thing to take away?
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| Mon, 02-14-2005 - 9:55am |
I have decided to learn something new from each person I meet through OLD. A new factoid, a new place to visit, or something new about myself that I didn't know, or just something new that I didn't know before....
So far from three people I've learned three things. I've learned one thing about sushi (that sushimi is the raw stuff - is that correct?), one new thing about the area (that there's a great new brewpub downtown), and one thing about myself (that I should treat myself to weekly manicures, which I've already started to do and like already! ;))
How about you? What new and interesting facts have you taken away from OLDing?
So that's my new goal and outlook. To improve myself in at least one way through every person I meet.... be it via OLDing or just in general.

1. Really attractive people are often the least interesting.
2. Women will make the first contact online but after that it's back to regular roles where the guy leads.
3. I match the closest with people in a similar age range and similar circumstances.
4. Follow HJNTIY to a T.
5. Newbie members have to get tagged by 2 disappearing hottie match guys before you can realistically expect to have any decent interaction.
Great thread ... I have learned how to salsa and swing dance from men I met in OLD. I've learned a lot about motorcycles from the on-again-off-again BF I got from OLD. Learned some about geography and history from an Indian-born man I went out with twice; broadened my knowledge of skiing from another OLD; learned never go out with a guy who says he's a poet (only half-kidding) from another OLD experience. If I had more time to think about it, I could probably come up with more details. But when I think back on the last few years, I have met so many interesting people and had a wide range of experiences with them, and I wouldn't have missed it.
I've also learned a LOT about myself, what I need, what I don't need, how my mind works.
Well, I think it's SAshimi, not SUshimi (I thought the latter was that imitation crab stuff??), and it's just the raw fish without any rice or seaweed, etc. Sushi is raw fish too (for the most part), but either put on top of rice, or rolled with seaweed.
I'm sure I've learned some things from my dates, but I'm having trouble thinking of anything at the moment! That's actually one of my frustrations...that so many of the men I meet just don't seem to know much of ANYTHING about the city! But I'm sure if I wanted to know about GOLF or chain restaurants in the burbs I could find out plenty ;-). That sounds more snobby than I am...I'm really not, but pick up the "what's happening" section of the paper once in a while, huh, guys???
Sheri
I think this is a great attitude to have towards OLD. I followed some of your other posts and I'm glad you've been able to put some of that anxiety aside.
I try to do the same thing, especially when it's a relationship that has ended or someone I was seeing and really liked.
Some of the things I've learned: I discovered I love jet skiing, I love to be spoiled but sometimes need my space, and that I must have a great friendship/compatibility with my SO but there also must be passion too.
This might sound kind of new-agey, but I believe there is some truth in "You get what your put out." So keep putting that positive energy out there and it's bound to come to you. :)