What's your worst OLD experience so far?

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What's your worst OLD experience so far?
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Sat, 03-12-2005 - 5:33pm

Be specific! Nothing like "he ghosted" accepted, since that's happened to all of us at least once ;)

Here's mine. I was out on a first date / second meet, and a chicklet came over and was dancing with / all over my "date". Turns out it was his ex-wife.




Edited 3/12/2005 7:50 pm ET ET by city_gal
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Sun, 03-13-2005 - 4:54pm
Well I've only been on about half a dozen first dates via OLD and only one second date. On on date, he talked almost non-stop about himself and then at the end said he hoped he hadn't turned me off of online dating. Only for a few months. LOL Another one I met for a drink at one of the restaurants where the waitresses are all young, blonde, and built and he gave the waitress the up and down look every single time she went by. I think he was actually surprised when I walked to my car and waved a cheery goodbye without giving him a chance to ask me out again. Poor guy probably had no idea what he did wrong.
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Sun, 03-13-2005 - 6:11pm
My worst was not really an OLD experience but it was a dating/introduction service so close enough. I spoke to the guy on the phone and through the 30 minute conversation, I probably said 10 words because he talked constantly about himself. In this conversation, he described himself to me - he was 5'6" and 150 lbs - he said he was in good shape because he was a baggage handler loading bags onto planes. He also told me that people told him he looked like Kevin Bacon and that due to an accident when he was a baby, he had a slight limp. Determined to make the best of it (and you were required to meet people they set you up with), I met him for dinner at a local steak place. When he walked in the door, first thing - it was not a slight limp, it was very pronounced also he was not 5'6" as I was taller than he was and I am 5'5" and he was not 150 pounds unless he put a 20 pound weight belt around him - WAY too skinny. He had a very slight resemblance to Kevin Bacon but also had bad teeth and a square head. But I am there so we go sit down to have dinner. When we order, he orders milk with his dinner (hey, I like milk but this was more than a little odd for a 27 year old guy to order milk at dinner). The one-sided conversation started up again with him continuing the monologue about himself and how he was a virgin and wasn't going to sleep with anyone until he got married and was very religious. He asked me about 2 questions including which church I went to (to which I answered I don't really go to church). The waitress could tell I was in a excruciating situation and kept throwing me pity looks the whole evening. At the end of dinner, he asked if I wanted to go see a movie. I told him I had a headache and needed to go home. Still oblivious, he called the next day to say he'd had a great time and that I was SO much better than all the girls the service had set him up with in South Dakota (this was Kansas and I was his first "date" in Kansas) that they were all really horrible and he had nothing in common with them, not like me. He asked if I wanted to go out again and I told him that I didn't think we would work out. He said he was really disappointed but oh well. Thank God I never heard from him again!

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Sun, 03-13-2005 - 11:27pm

Corresponded briefly with a guy that had no photo. I made a date and in the meantime he sent me a photo. I knew there would be no love connection, but since I said I'd go out to dinner I decided to go. Besides, it never hurts to meet another human being...

I get to dinner and the guy was missing a tooth---in the front!!! He then proceeded to tell me about his time in Vietnam and that he got disability because he has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder...boy I couldn't get out of there fast enough...LOL

Another guy posted photos, but the angle they were taken hid the fact that he had a messed up eye ( I have no idea what happened). I feel kind of shallow, but I couldn't et past the eye....NEXT!!!

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 10:57am
I've had a couple. I mentioned one under the "Have you ever Found a Friend Online" post. After an excruciating dinner where I found myself in the ladies room calling my sister to complain, he kept pointing his finger at me while he was talking, drove me crazy. Next day I told him "had a good time but....". He really didn't get the message. He sent a huge bouquet of roses to my office, stopped by my house after a week just to see if I wanted to go to dinner (he lives 45 minutes away), I said no. Then, after he found another girl to latch onto..he's the one who emailed me about wearing high heels and panties and taking pictures!!! Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww, creepy!
Then there was the guy who I went fishing with on our first 'meet'. He was slimier than the bait! Constantly smoked, which I hate. So I called it an early night and he walked me to my car. Kissed me, BLECH, and said "if I had my MOJO working we'd be having sex right now". NOT IN A MILLION YEARS!
Too funny.
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:13am
OK, ummm, Donna? You stayed friends with the first guy after you had an excruciating dinner, he drove you crazy AND acted all stalker-y? You are a glutton for punishment, girl! There are times when you just need to cut your losses no matter how "nice" a guy might seem. If he bugged you so much, how come you stayed friends with him? And the high heels and panties thing does it for sure, but good grief - it sounds like he had some strikes against him long before that!

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:25am
I felt sorry for him, I guess!! who knows...but the heels thing crossed the line!
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 2:54pm

Well, it would have to be "jealous husband" woman. It was sometime last fall -- I don't remember, I think I blocked it out of my mind. :)

I have posted about it before, but in short: A woman I dated one time (she claimed to be divorced -- she wasn't) invited me over to her house after the date. Her insanely jealous husband somehow must have gotten "tipped off" that I was over there because he showed up shortly thereafter and was in a furious rage. He came in and threatened me several times, called his wife a slut, and stormed out of the house.

To top it off, she still wanted me to stay after he left!

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 03-14-2005 - 3:41pm

It's a toss up. There was the French dude who, after a bit of emailing, I agreed to meet for lunch. Turns out, all he was looking for was a green card wife.

There was the other guy who came off as very sweet. He was a single dad of an adorable little boy. But when I asked him why he had moved to my town, his answer was "well, when I got out of prison..."


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Registered: 05-20-2004
Mon, 03-14-2005 - 3:59pm

Hello Sisfox,

What was your French guys name? I recently had been talking to a guy that was from Paris. He seemed a little strange to me. Anyway, I was wondering if by some small chance it could be the same person?

My worst experience to date...

A supposed MD took me to "Golden Corral" (eeewwwwe) for dinner, then to a Walmart parking lot to make out.

What a Gentleman??? Not only that, but he again answered my profile a few months later...as if we never met.

Jodie




Edited 3/14/2005 5:01 pm ET ET by truewild1969

 

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 4:09pm
I honestly don't remember his name. He was a nurse and had just started at Hopkins when we met - but he wanted to stay here long term, not a short gig there.