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| Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:24am |
What is the earliest you would become engaged to someone? Remember you could always have a long engagement to figure out things before you get married...
| Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:24am |
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At my age, 6 months would be the absolute earliest, but a year would be more comfortable, I think. When I was younger, a couple years, minimum.
Sheri
>yea, i didnt quite word that the way i wanted to. but i know someone that is
>engaged after a month but says that they can always wait a while until they
>get married (more a long the lines of a year). she knows she wants to marry
>him thats not the problem. but planning a wedding takes time i guess or
>something like that. and people are angry with her for getting engaged so fast
>too.
Sure, if waiting means planning a wedding, then that's perfectly reasonable. But one month is definitely too soon because they're still in the infatuation period and are controlled by the chemicals/hormones that brought the two of them together. It's scientifically shown that you cannot think rationally during that period; everything will seem perfect about the other person (as was what happened to me and my ex...). I agree with the other posters that 6 months to one year is a reasonable length of time before you REALLY know that you'd like to marry that person.
Edited 2/27/2006 12:37 pm ET by jjjj2004
Definitely NOT!!!!
You don't even really *begin* to know the real person until you've been dating for at least 3-4 months. At a month, it's all about infatuation and projection.
Sheri
I wouldn't. I don't think it is possible to know someone well enough to know that you want to spend the rest of your lives together so soon, and moreover to see things clearly enough to be sure you aren't missing red flags. Let's face it, at the one-month mark hormones are still running the show.
Six months is the minimum for me.
I wouldn't but it really is a hard call when it comes to affairs of the heart! It's been so long since a man has WOWed me consistently. I introduced a friend to a guy and she proposed to him after the first few weeks of dating. Mind you they spend 4-5 days a week together (alternating between each other's places)! Yes, she proposed. No ring, just basically they both are feeling the connection and she already knows he is the ONE!
It's funny, the majority of couples usually will state that they knew he was the ONE after the first date!
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