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| Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:24am |
What is the earliest you would become engaged to someone? Remember you could always have a long engagement to figure out things before you get married...
| Mon, 02-27-2006 - 11:24am |
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Yeah...I've come to believe that people are only "the one" in 20/20 hindsight. I've had that feeling several times in my life and only once has it proved to be anywhere near correct (with my ex-husband).
As one of my favorite relationship books says (paraphrasing), "if it's the love of a lifetime, you'll have a lifetime to enjoy it, so what's the rush?"
Sheri
But that's exactly my point. There are lots of times people "just know"...and they're wrong. But we don't hear about those, we only hear about the times that they "just knew" and they were right...20/20 hindsight in other words. The former happens MUCH more frequently than the latter, however.
Marriage is too important, IMO, to take that kind of risk.
Sheri
At least a year, and possibly longer.
I'm very cautious when it comes to the subject of marriage (haven't been there yet). Everything needs to check out, no doubts or "I don't knows". That said, I'll likely be a singleton for a while, and I'm quite okay with that fact. Honestly, I'm beginning to think that the ideal relationship for me is a committed one without the legal woes.
It probably also helps that I haven't been plagued by a ticking biological clock. I've been ovulating sand longer than I care to remember.
Edited 2/27/2006 4:03 pm ET by happyjustme
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