When to discuss removing profiles

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Registered: 04-02-2003
When to discuss removing profiles
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 10:50am

When is it time to bring up removing the OLD profiles. I recently started dating someone i met online... we'd emailed and chatted for about 3 weeks then actually met a mother ago today. Things here really gone well. I got rid of one of my profiles soon after meeting him and used the "hide" feature on the other one. I mentioned that I'd hid my profile... as he seems a bit insecure about me finding other men. He asked how to do it... he hadn't realized the feature existed. But that was the end of it... he never hid his profile.

I recognize that I'm extremely insecure about this issue due to a situation in a previous relationship. I don't want to push the matter too soon... but it upsets me when i see he's logged on recently. And I do check if he has... it's a left over habit from that previous relationship that i can't seem to shake.

I'm not sure how to approach it... I don't want to seem like I'm rushing along it is still early... but at the same time my insecurities over it are tough to deal with.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 3:20pm
I would say a good rule of thumb would be to discuss removing your profiles when you (together) decide to become sexually exclusive. If you feel like you're rushing things, there's a good chance you are. A month of dating isn't really all that long.
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Registered: 04-22-2009
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 8:00pm

I do think it's a bit early to do, but why not say to

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Registered: 11-14-2005
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 9:42pm
Have you discussed being exclusive yet? Are you calling each other bf/gf? If not, I wouldn't bring it up. Once you've decided together that you aren't going to date anyone else, I would bring it up then.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 1:03am

personally, i think