When do I cut my losses?

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Registered: 09-25-2005
When do I cut my losses?
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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 7:13pm

Hello everyone,

I'm new to online dating - - started about a week ago - - and would appreciate some advice from those with more experience than me...is it unusual to NOT get a message for a couple of days from a guy you've started exchanging messages with? (That's the situation I'm in now). So I am wondering if I should go ahead and write this guy off as no longer interested or give it some more time. (You know how you can see when someone's last been online? Well, this guy hasn't been since he and I last swapped messages...don't know if I should read anything into that or not.)

I don't want to be in a position where it's like I'm waiting on someone to get back to me - - if I have a time frame to work from, I'll know when I should cut my losses.

And is it cool to be emailing more than one guy at a time? My gut says I should do that, until or unless something gets serious, but I'm new to this and just want to start off on the right foot so that my online experience is a fun one!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sun, 09-25-2005 - 8:11pm
in my experience you have to email 10-15 guys for one of them to be half decent and worth meeting so it is ok if you email more than one guy at a time. Dont have too high expectations and dont take things personally to these people you are someone they donot know and so you are not a priority until you meet and you click.
Dont spend too much time thinking about it. Just email/chat for an hour or less a day and see where it goes
Good luck
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-25-2005 - 8:19pm

I find the best way to handle this is to assume every time you hear from a guy will be the last time ;-). Don't wait, just keep going with emailing and dating others. If you hear from him again, great; if not, oh well!

And yes, you definitely should be emailing more than one person at a time ;-)!

Sheri

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Registered: 05-12-2005
Sun, 09-25-2005 - 11:02pm
Happens all the time, you write to some one and you think it's going ok,then you never hear from the again. It's no big deal. You can email as many people as you want, you haven't made an exclusive committment to any of them.
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Registered: 09-25-2005
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 7:03pm
Thanks everyone for the advice...I haven't heard back from the guy I was emailing with, but I guess that comes with the (online dating) territory. So I've gone ahead and messaged some other guys :)