when to do status check
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| Sat, 12-17-2005 - 7:37pm |
I've been dating this guy M for about 3 weeks by now. We've met about 5 times including 1 formal/romantic date. He came by my place this morning to give me advise on my career move. (which he offered over the phone while I was out of town the whole week this week when I learned about a job offer )
As soon as he came in, I told him I was trying to locate my luggage delayed from last night's flight then he grabbed the number and checked it out for me. I thought it was pretty sweet.
Also, as he told me over the phone, he did go over all the aspects I need to consider for taking a job in detail.
We haven't kissed yet but just hugs ( he said 'you are such a good hugger' not sure what meant by that ! ) And I've been really busy and not very interested in dating anybody else besides the fact there were not too many people interesting on Match.
I think I want to give a shot with him but not sure what he really thinks. Should I bring it up to him what he's expecting from us?
I appreciate your insights.

Honestly, I think it's a bit too early now. I think the "right" time to do a status check would be before you have sex, after you've been dating for a few months. Just go with the flow and see where it goes, it sounds like he's a nice guy. Take it one day at a time and you'll know when the time is right.
It's been my experience that I let the guy do all that and in the meantime I go about my life. When he sees I'm not stopping to wait for him to make up his mind, that's when he makes up his mind.
It works for me - maybe it doesn't work for others but it's worked for me.
thank you for the input.
I did not have a chance to bring up about what he's looking for in a relationship. Things came out here and there while talking about other things. He did mention about him being "negotiable" for any kind of circumstance.
But it's a really good idea to bring up about "relationship" in general sense.
That's what I've been doing with M. I guess I am just curious right now what he might be thinking.
A while ago, I told him about my ex boyfriend and the closure hadn't been done. Right before we got on each other's car, he said, "So should I wait till you do the closure with your soom-to-be-exbf?" Then I said, "no that's not necessary, it's just me making things clear"
I am wondering if he's waiting for the update on my exbf. There are just a few things he needs to pick up and thing I need to get back.
I will probably bring up what he's looking for in a relationship. Not only because I want to figure out which way we are heading to but that's also a good way to learn what he's expecting.
Thank you very much for the insight.