When do you get deeper?

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Registered: 04-11-2006
When do you get deeper?
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Tue, 04-11-2006 - 8:20pm
In online dating, when do you start asking more serious questions? I mean questions about when he expects sex from this relationship, his views on living together, family, etc.? I've been emailing this guy for over a week, and I think it'll move to the phone soon, but we only discuss surface topics and general "Where does your family live" stuff. I've heard alot of online guys expect sex by date 3, etc, and I don't want to waste my time with someone because we never discussed the real issues.
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Tue, 04-11-2006 - 10:06pm

Honestly, what I like about OLD is that it's very easy to discuss those issues over email before you even meet. Some people might disagree with me, but I think the format makes it easy. Myself, I'm waiting for marriage to have sex, and while I normally don't bring that up with men until I've been out with them a few times, it's a lot easier to be upfront about it with OLD. Same with my views on family, moving, marriage, etc.

In your situation, since you've already been doing the email thing for a while and the deeper issues haven't come up, I think you'll have to just bide your time. Unless you just want to flat out ask him in an email. :-)







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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 12:57am

I personally wouldn't ask those type of questions until we'd met in person and for some of them, not until we've been dating for a while. I wouldn't ask the question about when he expected sex at all...I tend to think that a guy who DID expect sex by date 3 would probably lie, and one who wouldn't would probably be a little offended.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 1:03pm

If you read his essays and profile it usually indicates the type of relationship he is seeking providing he's being truthful.