when do you offer to pay?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
when do you offer to pay?
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Tue, 09-20-2005 - 5:05pm

een in a long term relation and did not update myself on this: when do you offer to pay for an outing?

usually I would let the guy pay once then I pay the next time...
I m not sure if I should let him pay all the time.
we are not goin to any expensive places anyway but I dont know him well (3rd date) and dont know how to do this.
Shall i go b4 to get the tickets for movies for example??
what do you do usually when you make it past second date?

thnx for responding

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 5:09pm

I will let him treat the first handful of dates. I'll usually reciprocate on the 3rd or 4th date.

In your situation--3rd date and you're going to the movies--I'd let him pay for the tickets and offer to get the popcorn.

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Tue, 09-20-2005 - 5:18pm

If he asked you for the 3rd date, then I would assume he is paying! If you called him and set the date, then you would pay!

Another scenario, let's say a movie is planned and then decide to go grab something to eat/drink afterwards? He may pay for the movie but if we go out afterwards I would offer to pay for my dinner!

For the most part, the majority of guys will pay for everything (no matter who plans it) but they are appreciative of the offer!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 10:35am

I think you guys are right on here.

CL-Truewild1969

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