When is a person considered to be a ghos

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Registered: 10-12-2003
When is a person considered to be a ghos
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 4:27pm
Let's say a person you've been talking to had a major event occur in their life like a death of a family member or something similar... How many days of no contact would you then consider this person a ghost?

 

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 5:31pm

Depends on the situation.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 5:32pm
I can't imagine there's a routine time line for that - so many variables depending on the event in question, not to mention how long you've been in contact with them.


A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MS
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 12:50am

HI BK,

At this point, you kinda have to take yourself out of his picture. You are not dating only each other, or to that stage yet, right? Then everything else is suspended due to this tragic event. Whether sudden or not, it can take a few weeks for people to recover, and handle all details.

After about 5 days, I would think you could write a very short email expressing empathy and concern. If there is no reply to that within 2 or 3 days, then I would move forward. This does not exclude him from coming back into your life, but it keeps you from sitting and waiting. Then, you have been kind and caring, and if he is going to come back, he will.

Best o luck!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 11:07am

I would send him a sympathy email card and then let it go. He's probably overwhelmed by his loss right now. I know if I lost someone close to me, dating would be a priority right away.

The timing sucks on this one, but I think you should let it go and not think about him anymore. Maybe he'll surprise you and once things settle back down in his life, he'll contact you again.