When to remove your ad from dating site

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Registered: 07-05-2003
When to remove your ad from dating site
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Tue, 07-15-2003 - 2:47pm
Once you've started dating someone you've met online how/when do you decide that it's time to remove or hide your profile from the dating site where you met each other? I'd like to hear your experiences.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-15-2003 - 3:03pm
I generally wouldn't remove my ad unless and until we've talked about it and specifically agreed to date exclusively. I think it's also a good idea to make clear that my idea of "exclusively" means that neither of us keep our ads up!

But until that time, I'm going to keep dating other people, so my ad will generally stay up.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-15-2003
Tue, 07-15-2003 - 4:53pm
Hi,

Maybe I'm an odd duck, but once I meet someone with whom I go out on more than one date on and I feel I really like, I hide my ad/profile. I am not comfortable dating more than one guy at a time and I don't think I ever will be.

Of course if things don't work out, as soon as I feel ready to date again, I unhide my ad/profile.

Gabi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-15-2003 - 5:14pm
I did not meet my bf online but I removed my ad when we became exclusive and not before that.
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Registered: 06-09-2003
Sun, 07-20-2003 - 9:40am
Definitely when you become exclusive and have had the discussion. Here's the problem though, the guy may never bring up being exclusive, even begin sleeping with you and not take his ad down. Never let this happen! You may have to bring up the discussion first. I had two relationships from people I met online, including my current boyfriend,and BOTH times they started becoming intimate with me and still had their ad up while I took mine down. I had a talk with them immediately. One never took his ad down and I told him I wasn't interested and stopped seeing him. Even though he tried repeatedly to get me back. With my current boyfriend, I had the same discussion. I told him I'm not going to continue sleeping with a guy who is dating other women. He took his ad down right away. Another thing...never take your ad down first! If you have yours up, and he's serious about you, then he might have the discussion with your first. If they won't respect you and take their ad down, they are probably just playing the field. Alot of men are like that online, they want to date as many women as possible.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-20-2003 - 6:17pm
Agree and I think it is foolish to hide one's profile just because you have a good first date - if you don't want to meet anyone else fine but there is no harm in emailing/talking to other men until you are exclusive - that way if it doesn't work out with the first guy - and you likely will know that soon - as the other poster did after the second or third date - you can go back to the list of men you've spoken to/emailed with that sounded interesting

However, to each her own of course!