When should dates be confirmed?
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When should dates be confirmed?
| Thu, 09-14-2006 - 6:52am |
If you spoke to a guy and set up a day to meet and he said he was going to call the next day to plan things out and he didn't, would you agree to meet him if he did it the day of the date? Normally I would not but I haven't had so much fun talking with someone I met on-line in a very long time if ever, and I wanted to meet him. I even suggested first that perhaps we meet because the conversation was going on for an hour or so and I had to get off the phone to walk my dog and recharge my phone. We spoke for 1 1/2 hours and I laughed practically the whole time, he told me how easy I am to talk to and I felt the same way about him. He works a few blocks from me and we agreed to meet after work for Thai food but I have no idea about the time or place we'll meet so as far as I'm concerned, we're not meeting up today. Do you think I should accept or just say I made other plans and we'll have to reschedule which is what I'm tempted to say.

Why don't you just call him (or send a text if you are more comfortable with that) and ask if you are still on for tonight and if so, where and what time?
Coolas
I assume you are hoping he will call today -- which is the apparent plan?
No I wouldn't call him and unfortunately I run into this quite a bit w/men online. I actually told a guy off cause he NEVER called and then wrote me an email the next date wondering why we didn't meet the night before. How come he didn't write an email the day before "saying let's meet at 7:00 pm?" ICK!!
I like men who stand for something and if you speak words without following through, then I don't want to be bothered w/you!
Men for some reason like to make plans last minute.
I had a guy tell me that he will call me to make plans for Sat. And when he didnot call by Friday I assumed no plans but got surprised that he calls me half an hour before the time we were planning to meet to tell me he will come by to pick me up! (he was certain we are still on for the date)
Eventually I realized that when he says I call you to plan, it meant I call you to tell you I m dropping by to pick you up and go to whatever place we decide ...
I agree with tstephnic. I don't like the last minute dates especially when i haven't heard from them in several days and they call to "confirm" at the last minute.
Last friday a guy who asked me out on sunday said he'd call me later to firm up our plans later in the week. ....so much for playful banter during the week. i heard from him via email the *evening* of our date. All he said was he was stuck at work, and "here are the directions to the restaurant". i just told him that i already had other plans because i hadn't heard from him all week...didn't think he was serious.
I like men who stand for something and if you speak words without following through, then I don't want to be bothered w/you!
Right on, Steph! I couldn't agree with you more.
To the OP: I've never actually had that happen, but in the future, I'd be inclined to make it clear that without a confirmation call, at least the day before, I may (or may not) make other plans.
I've had this happen too. I think it's one of those things in which men and women are wired differently. We would set up a day and I would have this need to confirm. However, in the guy's mind, it has been clearly understood that we're meeting. I get myself all worked up the day before or the day of the meet wondering if it is still on. I usually can't stand not knowing, because I'd rather make other plans if the date is off, so I would leave a message on the day of the meet asking if we're on. And turns out it always is. I have had a couple of very nice dates from these circumstances. I'm learning to chill out a bit as it does seem like a lot of men don't have the ability to make concrete plans ahead of time, which doesn't automatically mean they're not interested.