when should I?

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Registered: 05-27-2005
when should I?
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Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:13pm
When should I email this guy? I met him from an online dating site and we emailed a few times and chatted with an instant messenger once and decided when we would meet. He told me to email him later so that we can decide on the time of day to meet up. How many days before the weekend that we're meeting, should I email him? I don't want to seem pushy or desperate or anything like that but I also want him to know that I'm still interested in meeting him. He might think I'm not and make other plans if I don't contact him soon enough but I really don't know what I should do.


Edited 5/27/2005 7:15 pm ET ET by dream_angel2005
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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 12:46am
I don't like to wait around to know simple things like what time I'm getting together with a guy. Just email him and ask what time he'd like to meet. Don't put it off anymore. Do it today. Why don't you suggest a time if you have a time in mind? Emailing to clarify your plans doesn't make you sound desperate. I recently had a similar experience. Last Friday or Saturday I made a date with a guy for tomorrow. We didn't set a time though. I think I emailed him on Wednesday to say that I was making plans for the weekend and wanted to know what time he wanted to see me. He got back to me right away and said please reserve 6-9 for me ... and that was that. Not desperate at all. Just organized and keeping busy.
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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 6:28am
I took your advice and emailed him today before I go to work. Now I have to wait to see if he gets back to me. I guess it is better to get it over with and not sit around wondering when or if I should let him know the time I want to meet.
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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 2:39pm
So what happened? Did you hear from him? Did you have a date?
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 6:36am
No, we didn't have a date yet. We're supposed to meet this weekend but I'm a little confused. I emailed him Saturday to give him a time and suggest chatting on IM a couple of days before we meet, then the next day to see how his weekend went because he was going to a wedding reception. He told me he had a great time and he would like to chat on Thurs. I forgot to give him a time for Thurs so I emailed him Mon to give a time. He never got back to me on that. Maybe it doesn't mean anything, I don't know. I'm going to wait until Thurs and see if he does show up on IM. I noticed he was on lava again yesterday and last night so he's not overly busy. But it has only been two days since he last emailed, so I shouldn't put too much into it, right?