Where do I stand with this guy?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2005
Where do I stand with this guy?
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Sat, 04-22-2006 - 7:04am

I wrote to this guy from an online dating service in Jan and we chatted on the phone briefly end of Jan for an hour,I ended the call.I had to then leave the country for business travel for 3 weeks(he knew abt it).I came back and called him again after I returned and then again we spoke briefly for an hour(Again i ended the call this time) and he promised me he would call me.5 weeks went by,no call,no email nothing.Tired of being the one to initiate conversations I wrote him an email -'Are you really serious and if not maybe we should call it quits'.He immediately calls me back and tells me he will visit me whenever I want to meet him.He drives over 4 hours each way to meet me and we had a really good time.He did not initiate sex or anything.Then on his way back after our date, he called me as he was bored.

I knew he came to my city only to meet me (did the 8 hour up/down thing).

Now again it is 3 days already and I am back to square 1.No emails/No calls.Where do I stand with this guy?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2006
Sat, 04-22-2006 - 11:02am
Well, unless you want to be the one to initiate all the time, seems this guy only responds when prompted. Give it some time, see if he calls, if not chalk it up to you had a good date and that's all. You don't want to be involved with someone who can't take responsibility for even the simple things. JMO Kim
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Sat, 04-22-2006 - 4:09pm
Geez I think the 5 week period that you didn't hear from him at all pretty much said it all about "where you stand." You apparently don't stand anywhere. If he were interested at all you wouldn't have to be the one initiating all the contact.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2006
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 10:16am

I'm with emdeesea here.

heather 5-18-10