Where Do You Meet Men in Real Life?

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Where Do You Meet Men in Real Life?
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Tue, 02-08-2005 - 6:01pm

Hi All:

I'm still seeing the guy I met a few weeks ago, but if things don't work out, I have deleted all my OLD profiles. I'm getting burned out and bummed out on OLD.

My questions is: where do you meet guys in real life? I've done all the usual: volunteering (which is fine, but there are usually a bunch of women), attending singles functions, etc.

Any ideas???

Claribeth

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Tue, 02-08-2005 - 9:28pm

Dang it! I'm so sorry! I seriously did not mean to - you are a gem of a guy too! My bad.

Lisa

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 02-08-2005 - 10:08pm
It's ok, as long as we can kiss and make-up.
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Tue, 02-08-2005 - 11:08pm

Hi,

I would say '86' the bar/club thing all together. I really do not know Anyone who met their mate there; that is a "Mr Right Now" kinda place!

I have tried the hardware store, huge building supply chain, bookstore, sports store, sports events, and even the men's dept at large stores...Nope! No way I am gonna meet someone at the gym, I do not pay attention to that kinda thing there. I work with 75% men, but ewwww...not where you work, and I do NOT date pilots (who come thru my work area Internationally), they are Known 'Air Dogs'!

No idea on real life meetings, but I do know that when it was more of a rare occurence to Meet someone who might be a potential mate, there was a Lot more courting/wooing/dating done! Now, men/women just go back and shoot Another bass from the barrell!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 1:15am

>>I do NOT date pilots (who come thru my work area Internationally), they are Known 'Air Dogs'!<<

I pointed that out recently and took a minor amount of guff for it. Glad to hear my opinion confirmed by a female! :)

Where to meet guys? I tried to think about this from this perspective- where would/could some nice single female find ME? After all, I'm a single guy. I don't drool (well, sometimes when I'm sleeping on the plane) and I have an actual job, my own car that runs well, and a nice place to live. I figure I'm as eligible as the next nitwit. ;)

So any woman that hangs at the local park will meet me and my dog there from time to time. We walk through the neighborhood, too- if you pay attention, it's usually at the same time each day. Be on the corner when we come back, ask to pet the dog, POW, you're talking to me. :)

I can also be found at the local ballpark in the summertime, usually with a buddy but sometimes not. Come up and shoot the breeze with us.

I like to read sometimes- real books. Without pictures and everything. LG said "bookstore" and I thought it was corny, but thinking about it... if a woman is in there, I assume she likes to read, too. That's cool. Ask me where something is- I might not know, but if you have a nice smile (and no wedding ring on) the odds are I'll wander around the store with you until we find it.

You can also find me at Costco. Yes, it sounds goofy, but you watch- every single guy that walks into any Costco in the universe will swing by the big screen TV section. It's like gravity. I don't know what kind of bonk-the-sabre-tooth-tiger-on-the-head kind of instinct those things have, but it's a power that cannot be denied.

The power tools section will also frequently have the same power. Cookware? Not so much.

(Unfortunately, when married, we don't grow out of it, so y'all pay attention to that and watch out for angry wives.)

You can also find me by asking, aggressively asking, your friends and family and co-workers. Yes, it sounds stupid, but setups should not and are not necessarily a thing of the past! I'll be at barbecues, parties, and so forth.

One thing about setups that I advise MY friends- it works a lot better if you invite several single people of both sex and just let 'em mix in a room or whatever. The last time I was "set up", the girl that was there "to meet NGOL" was about the last one I was going to be interested in... but her friend, who came with, now she was a hottie and there was some attraction going on there. :)

Those are a few ideas. I'll have more. :)

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 9:16am

<1) Bookstore
2) Shopping
3) Civic volunteer things
I think Bars, Gyms and Hiking groups are the worst places to meet people>>

I'm a big reader so I hang out in bookstores quite often but I've never met anyone there. I'm too chicken to make the first move (still have trouble making eye contact, lol).
For years I heard that gyms were the new singles bars but I'm convinced it's an urban legend. I've been a regular gym-goer for years, at various gyms, and have never come close to meeting someone there. And I don't know anyone who has.
But LG, I'm curious, why do you say hiking groups are a bad choice? I would think it would be a decent way to meet someone, esp. if you want to meet someone in good shape (Heart Surgery Guy excepted). Is it mostly couples?

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 10:18am

I've met people in strange places.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 5:13pm

Hiking Groups?

Well the AMC (Appalachian Mountain Club) leads hikes every weekend - so there are tons. Problem is that I figured out what the intitials stand for. AMC=(A)ged, (M)arried or (C)razy. I have yet to meet one single person who would be remotely dateable. Tons of guys who seem like they live at home with Mom or forget their wallets on dates. Tons.

I've all but given up on activities solely to meet people. So I'll only hike if it's a good workout.

For a while I thought hiking would be the perfect activity for meeting -- but it didn't turn out that way.

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 5:26pm

LG - and ALL the guys...

TRUST ME ON THIS!!!

Take up riding. Especially hunt seat or dressage. There are so few straight men involved in riding (a fear of breeches and boots???) that you will be immediately swamped by attractive, single, fun women.

You have to be able to accept that we talk to our horses like they are our babies, though. And dressage queens aren't nearly as fun as foxhunting gals.

Foxhunting is a blast in and of itself - and you don't have to be a very accomplished rider to enjoy it.

In the horsey pursuits, women outnumber men a good 20-1.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 5:28pm

I belonged to an outdoor group that has "singles hikes". I went on one, thinking, "great, I love to hike, it'll be so fun to meet a guy who likes to hike as well".

The first one I went on was the last. 8 women to 4 men, to begin with. 2 of the men were just WEIRD. The other two were just boring. The women were great, though ;-)!

Sheri

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Thu, 02-10-2005 - 8:04am

Gee - the hikes I've been on are usually 8 men to 2 women (who are generally married).

And I agree 100% - the activity attracts some of the WEIRDEST people. I think in part that's because anyone who enjoys it tends to buddy up with normal people and go on their own hikes --- and what's left are a bunch of loners who wind up tagging along on AMC or other organized hikes.

I've also found a really decent number of them are filled with Sr. Citizens. (Very fit Sr. Citizens!).