Where is this going?

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Registered: 10-08-2005
Where is this going?
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Sat, 10-08-2005 - 8:37pm

I am posting the first time here but am hoping to really get some insights into this.

I have an ad online and was contacted by a man living in the east coast and I live in the west coast.His Profile was exactly what I was looking for.His looks,his education everything seemed perfect.He seemed very interested too and infact called me over the phone,chatted just for a few minutes and told me he is booking his tickets to fly the next week to meet me.I told him we should chat a lil more on the phone and he was like we can chat till i come but i would rather meet you sooner than later.

He claims he is a doctor and here are some weird things that happened:
1. I only have a cell# for him and it is mostly switched off;sometimes on.Whenever he calls me he disconnects within a few minutes with a 'Baby I gotta go..will call back".No explanation of where he has to go/what he has to do and does not call back for another 6-7 hours.
2. He came over to visit me and flew in the night before and invited me to the hotel he was staying in(Me and he were only planning on meeting up the next day in the morning for breakfast).When I refused to meet him for the night;he flew back the next morning without meeting me;no explanation whatsover.
3. He tells me he wants to get married real soon and the physical part of a relationship is very important to him.
4. He has never asked me much about myself where i work/my friends/my likes/dislikes etc and does not volunteer way too much information about him.

I have more or less decided to dump him as now I am thinking maybe he is married?But even then would someone fly across the coast to just get laid?What is happening?Can someone tell me?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 8:40pm

Yes, some men will fly across the country just to have sex...sounds like he's one of them. Good riddance!

Sheri

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 8:44pm
OH yeah sounds married to me.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 8:44pm
I think your instincts are spot on. Doesn't matter if he's married or not (probably is, IMHO) but the whole episode is chock full of red flags. There's something wrong with this guy.