where have all the good men gone???

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where have all the good men gone???
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:06pm

I apologize in advance if I sound bitter but I guess I need to vent.
I am finding it to be more and more difficult to find men in my age range (46-53) that are truely looking for more than just a passing fancy. Or maybe it is my area (MA/so. NH).
I met a guy, did the obligatory few emails, quick meet and have been on 5 dates in the last 4 weeks. He seemed like a good guy. we "clicked" on many levels. I had no expectations...just was going with the flow, so to speak. We talk on the phone every couple days. I called him a little while ago, got his VM and just said "give me a call if you get a minute and feel like chatting". He called back a bit later and the entire time I was on the phone with him I could hear him typing and could here the "bling" of an im coming in to him. How rude!!! I ended the conversation pretty quickly as I could tell he was very distracted by the im'ing. When I said i was going to go he asked why and I said that obviously he was busy and he said that no he wasn't he was just sitting relaxing. Does he think i am an idiot?? NEXT!!!!
There have been other guys that have done similar things. I guess it is time for me to give this OLD thing a rest. I just took a parttime job in a store. Maybe I will focus on looking IRL for someone.
I did, tho, want to say that this message board is such an awesome place. I love coming on here and finding that I am, by no means, alone in my frustrating search. That there are others like me going through a number of frogs before someday finding our prince.
Thank you all.

Polly

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 10:40am

I agree. That's just rude.

She even said something (giving him an opening to realize what he was doing was rude) and he didn't take it.

Sheri




Edited 8/25/2005 10:42 am ET ET by northwestwanderer
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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 11:10am
To me it doesn't matter whether or not the person he was IMing with was a female or not - I, too, HATE when I'm talking to someone and they're on the computer at the same time. My boyfriend does that to me. I won't talk for long when I know he's doing that - it's annoying to be trying to have a conversation and they're going, "uh huh..." "mmmm...." "yeah...." Even worse is when he laughs and I think he's laughing at something I say and it turns out he's laughing at whatever his friend wrote to him. Ugh! That's when I say, "Okay, well, I'm gonna let you go. Talk to you later!"

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 1:43pm

Yes, after Polly answered the same way, I thought about it and realized that is true...It's just rude.

Sara

 
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Registered: 11-09-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 3:29pm
I don't blame you for being angry or bitter. Always feel free to vent here. I think it is good that you heard the bling of the IM in the background on the phone. Better to find out that he is a jerk now than further on down the road. You have just succesfully weeded out another idiot. Keep on searching and hopefully you will find someone decent and mentally stable IRL.
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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 4:30pm

Hi Polly-


Thanks for the email.

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