Where is he??

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Registered: 09-23-2005
Where is he??
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Thu, 10-06-2005 - 1:49pm

I'm sort of new to this board, but I'd like some opinions on whether I'm doing the right thing or not...

I started seeing this guy about 4 weeks ago. We've had a couple of dates that have gone great. I think we have a lot in common and both seem headed in the same direction in life. Our last date lasted pretty much all night long and he ended up staying over merely because he lives 45 minutes from my place and it was 3:30am. He got up early, kissed me goodbye and left the next morning.

I didn't hear from him until 3 days later when he called me to say he wanted to see me over the weekend, but wasn't sure if had the time as he had a ton of work to do around his house and didn't know how long it would take him. I said to call me when he knew what he had going on.

Saturday morning came and I hadn't heard from him so I emailed to see if he'd be available or not because I wanted to make plans with my girlfriends if he wasn't. He emailed back and said Saturday was not good, but Sunday "might" work or we could get together Tuesday for some drinks. Both Sunday and Tuesday I was busy so I emailed that neither of those nights were good but offered reasoning why and said I was free Wednesday, Thursday or Friday. Well, I haven't heard from his since. I called him on Tuesday night and got his VM. Left a short message saying hi and to call me back when he had a chance. Still no reply.

Not to defend him or anything, but he's a HUGE sports fan and baseball has been on almost every night this week. He warned me of the sports addiction right up front so I could see him being busy with that the last couple of days. I'm just annoyed that, if he is still interested, why can't he write me a quick email to say hi or something. I'm not a high maintenance girl and I understand being busy. I just don't think anyone is so busy they can't take 2 minutes out of their day to make some sort of contact, especially since I was the last to both email and call. The ball is obviously in his court.

In any case, I've decided to give him up until tonight to get in touch, if not, then hasta la sports fan! I spent too many years with a man who ignored me and I refuse to let it happen again. Am I being too rash? Should I give him more time or am I right to give him THE BOOT!?

Thanks for listening ladies!
Meg

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 1:54pm

Oh okay not high maintenence with your prada purse. ROFL Just kidding!!!

There is no baseball tonight...so lets see if he calls...if he doesn't...kick him where the sun don't shine!

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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 1:59pm

Since I am attracted to men who are sports nuts...Ronnie being no exception, this has been my experience...


If he is into you.....it does not matter what is playing...he will do what it takes to spend time with you.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 09-23-2005
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:00pm
Hey! It's not a real Prada! It's a Prad...o? :)
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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:02pm

*giggles*

Oh that's right....lol

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Registered: 09-23-2005
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:08pm

Of course I want a guy who is CRAZY for me, but isn't it a bit too early to be asking for that? I've only known the guy for a month. I'm just confused because, if he wasn't interested, why would he try and make plans for Sunday or Tuesday? I'm a little afraid that when I said no to both those nights I may have inadvertently made him feel like maybe I wasn't interested. I don’t know.... AGH!

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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:22pm

Meghan-


Again, this is just based on my expereince.....if they are crazy for you...they will act like this right away!

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 04-07-2005
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:33pm

It sounds like you're like me. I expect so much from someone and give up on them if they don't deliver. In your situation I think you just need to relax and go about your life. If he is interested he will contact you back. I would suggest not making excuses for him, such as, the baseball playoffs because I completely agree that it only takes a few minutes to call and connect with someone. Don't bail just relax and go about your life and he'll call.

Fluffy

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Registered: 09-23-2005
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:55pm
How long should I wait though? Should I go with my original plan to ditch him if he doesn't call by tonight? What if I just let things be and he calls me next week. Do I really want to be with someone who basically forgot about me for an entire week? I just don't want him to be the one who tells me to take a hike. I'm afraid that's why he hasn't called, because he's trying to find a nice way to tell me it's not working out. I don't do well with rejection. I'd rather do the rejecting.
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Registered: 09-09-2004
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 3:30pm
You said that you had been dating for a month. Was there a pattern to the dating, like every weekend? Or once during the week, and then on the weekends? If the answer is no, then you probably don't need to concern yourself that he's not into you - he's just busy. If he's a sports nut - next time you two chat, why don't you talk sports with him? Quite frankly I don't see why you two can't both watch sports together? Another question - on your last date, was that the first time you two had slept together or not?
hello
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Registered: 09-23-2005
In reply to: meghanvl
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 3:42pm

There really hasn't been much of a pattern. We got together when we were both not busy. Whatever day that fell on. I am overreacting... aren't I? The both of us have very busy social lives and he's probably been slammed all week. But that brings me back to one of my original points... it only takes 2 minutes to write an email or make a quick phone call. Why hasn't he done that?

We didn't have sex. He stayed over and we obviously fooled around, but I put the brakes on after a while. I dont want to have sex with him before I know he's not having sex with anyone else and I dont think we're ready for that conversation yet. Do you think that may have been a factor? If so, then he really is a scum bag!

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