Which Easier? Being a Man or a Woman?
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| Thu, 03-31-2005 - 8:45pm |
HI Y'all,
Having read LG's cool comment: "welcome to guy world", and also having had the discussion with New Tall Man at dinner last night, I am wondering what the opinion here is about whether it is easier to be a Man or a Woman, where dating is concerned?
I LIKE being a cupcake, so I chose the girl side. I feel for the men per the rejection they must take. But, I think they are Lucky Charms lucky where the first month of a relationship is concerned, and where sex early on in that regard, goes. They seem to be able to travel on, unscathed, and Nothing sticks to velcro, so they do not seem to stress at All. Meanwhile, we go Turbo with the Agony 101--"does he like me?" "will he call?" and all that jazz!
Also like being the one who is Asked out and being able to call in the Cupcake Aces and just smile and bat my lashes, when I do not want to answer a question!
What say you?
Truly,
Cupcake

Good question Cupcake!
As far as dating goes, I do feel the man has it somewhat easier.
From my experience, they seem to get through the dating things without it bothering them so much and without anayzing it so much. Sure they get rejected, but then I guess both sides do.
Also, men seem to be able to do the casual sex thing much easier, where most women attach the emotional thing to sex. I guess I feel that the men get through the hurt and rejection quicker - or maybe they are just better at hiding it than women are???
Sunshine
It depends on the situation I guess.
As for online personal ads, it is much easier for the woman than the man I believe... but with a caveat for the woman...
A woman can post an ad on Yahoo or Match and in just a few days be deluged with emails or winks from interested guys if her picture is decent. Even sometimes with no picture, womans ads are still answered more frequently than a guys with a picture. But I've heard of some women getting 10-20 messages in some form or another a week.
The caveat for a woman is that they then have to wade through the riff-raff to find the guys that are actually truthful and honest. Not the married guys, the "only want sex" playa's, the 45 year olds that say they are 35, the 5'1"s that say they are 6' and stuff like that.
A man can post an ad on the same sites, of course depending on the area he lives in (I'm sure the bigger cities get more action??) and also depending on the picture they have posted... they will not get very many winks or messages at all. Maybe a couple a week, maybe...
As for answering an ad, a woman has it much easier there too I believe. If a woman found a man's profile interesting and messaged him, he would be flattered (if he was a normal, not egotistical guy) and that would be a good deal. Women can be very very picky and choosy about who they respond too.
For a man, I know from personal experience, I can send out 150 responses to personal ads and only get maybe 5-10 responses back. Men don't really have the choice to be super picky... with only about 10% of the women responding back, how are we to know "which specific" 10% of the women out of the available selection were the ones we should have sent messages too... the odds are not in a mans favor there.
And sometimes the responses men get back are just scams for porno sites or "marry a russian woman" scam of some type.
I've actually gotten pretty good at avoiding the "scam" personals very well from the start. If the ad sounds too good to be true, the picture looks like a professional model and they are looking for a match up to 100-200-300 miles away... chances are that is a bogus ad. I just avoid it to begin with.
Bryan
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