who is right and who is wrong?

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Registered: 08-09-2010
who is right and who is wrong?
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Tue, 12-10-2013 - 8:03pm

I am curious to see your comments about an email correspondence I had.  I live 40 minutes north of New York City and this guy from eastern Long Island emailed me (Mineola).  I think a car ride will be almost 2 hours between us, not to mention a bridge and toll.  So this guy emailed me and all he said was "You have nice profile in everyway."  I just replied thank you because I have manners.  He replies back and says this:

"I admire that you read ~ that's great ... Did you get much snow up in ABC town?"

Now to be honest, I got a lot of emails today from guys 2 hours away.  Do they not even pay attention to where women live?  The thought has not occured to them to check google maps or mapquest?  I guess I was in a bad mood but this is what I replied:

"Yes I love to read. I have also read on your profile that you are from Long Island. Do you like to read map books? We are hours apart. Sorry, but I am not interested. Good luck in your search and happy holidays"

His reply "All I said is you have a nice profile and you read that I was interested from that??? If I was I would of said I find you georgeous let's get together ~ but I did not ~ Merry Christmas and an extra good luck to you!"

My reply:  "why bother emailing someone then? to waste your time and the recipient's time?  Ok, extra good luck to you too"

What do you all think?  Do guys email women if they are not interested / want to be pen pals?  Did my reply catch him off guard and that is why he said what he did in his reply?  Just curious.  Thank you.


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Registered: 01-16-2014
Fri, 01-17-2014 - 12:45am
You should have given him chance to meet you to see if relationship clicks. If you wasn't interested, you should have clearly told him. In your case, guy simply humbly asked you for simple knowhow in excitement and you misjudge it as matter of guy attempting to lure you for wrong reasons. Stay cool and positive especially in love life rather than being doubtful.
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Registered: 01-16-2014
Fri, 01-17-2014 - 12:57am
try and share your thoughts here.
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