Who should email first?
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Who should email first?
| Sat, 05-14-2005 - 12:01pm |
Do men like it if a woman emails them first? Or is the woman expected to wait, hoping the guy will notice her profile and email? I figure since I'm paying for my subscription, I should make use of the services. I don't smile or wink or whatever you call it depending on the site because I'd rather cut to the chase and talk to the guy instead. My emails are short and non-committal, and I usually ask something that I know about and that he mentions in his profile. Am I choosing the wrong approach?

Is the approach working for you? If it is, then it's the right one.
Keep in mind, many of us OLDers have spent a good deal of money on people who aren't interested. Winking or Smiling is used to generate interest, without cost. If someone does show interest the cost of emailing might be worth it.
Most of the men I've dated from online for any length of time have been men I approached first, whether by email or by sending a wink. So, no, I don't think that's the wrong approach. I prefer to send a wink these days, because I like to see if there's interest before I bother with an email, but I don't think a short email would put a guy off if he was otherwise interested in your profile.
Sheri
We share the same experience with men in real life vs. online! I think most of us do. Which is why I play that well-worn recording: meet in real life asap, as everyone is different online!
If a guy is not interested, whether you email or just send a wink will make no difference. So why not save some money? That's just the way I look at it.
Congratulations on being proactive, BTW. No point in sitting around waiting to be contacted first.
Good luck!!
amjay