Whoa - this is creepy

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Whoa - this is creepy
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Thu, 12-28-2006 - 8:27pm

Check out this email I received from my myspace account:

Hi,
Lovely Family!
I long to have a family! Really missed out this Christmas. I'm 41, tall,fit fun and would love to be part of a family. Is the girls father involved?
I would love to talk.

He has no pics and his myspace page is basically blank. I dunno, I'm sort of freaked out. I mean, I've had some reservations about putting my kids' pics online, but I figured that it's not like I'm displaying my address or anything. I know in all likelihood this is just some lonely desperate guy, but what if it isn't that innocent? What if this guy is a freak? How should I handle this? Should I respond?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 1:51am

You will get a LOT of flack here for having yoru kids pics on line. I for one, dont see too much wrong with it if you dont have info where someone coudl find you, & you are VERY careful what you say to people & whom you respond to.


I personally dont like Myspace .. I think its much more "liberal" or casual - or something .... than "real" dating sites like Match, etc. I think you just get a TON of "riff raff" on Myspace & I likely wouldnt have my childs pic on it -

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 9:35am
Sounds like a pedophile to me.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 9:55am

I wouldn't necessarily think he's anything other than lonely and longing for a family, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.

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Registered: 03-27-2004
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 11:13am

Hmmm, he sounds like a regular old lonely guy until you get to the question about their father and then he sounds like a predator. I'd steer very clear.

Chick

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 11:17am

I didn't really take it that way...of course, I could be wrong - I can be "too nice" and "too trusting" sometimes...but I took that as 1. he's on the socially inept side and isn't realizing that's kind of an inappropriate question for someone you haven't even talked to before, even if you were just curious, and 2. maybe that was his nice way of asking, "are you still involved with him?"

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 12:24pm
If I had kids, I would NOT put my kids pictures online. It's an individual decision of course, but it is pretty easy to find out things about people online. Predators and creeps can take advantage of it. Obviously you want to be up front about having kids, but there's something about everyone and their dog being able to see your kids' pictures that seems a little creepy to me. JMHO, but yeah, that message would give me the willies.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 1:31pm

I agree, just don;t write him back, he will get the idea that your not interested in him. Just because someone write you, doesn't mean you have to write them back.

Good luck
Julia

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 10:14am

That's how I took it as well. It screamed pedophile to me when I got to that part. Theres lonely and then there is hunting for someone with kids. Yuck it just rang yucky to me and I wouldn't want ANY of that.

I know someone who met someone on CL and she dated him. Come to find out he was using someone elses name and he had been in jail for rape of an 8 year old when he was himself 18. She feels "bad" for him because he himself was abused and is continuing to see him. Nevermind the fact that the guy completely fraudulently used someone elses name so that when she ran a background check on him he came up clean. And only came clean with her when they had been together for awhile and slept together. THere are CREEPY people everywhere and if some guy is blatantly asking in a first email I want a family, is the father of your children around. Nah I'd stay right away from that.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 12:11pm

No.

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