Why????

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Why????
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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 8:49pm

Hi everyone,


I have recently gone back to pof and started talking to this very nice man and we did the normal phone, text, and then date I thought things were going great well he ghosted after the first date.


I see him tonite on pof with a different screen name and diff pic what's up with that, online dating is really hard, boy o boy!


Should i call him on it or do the right thing and let it go, and move on to the next!


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Registered: 10-16-2006
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 9:11am

Yup, it's hard.

Since it was just one date, I personally would just ignore it. There's really no answer to "why" anyone does these things, and if you asked him, I doubt he would give you the reason, if he even knows what it is. I think a lot of men (and women too) act as if they are having a really good time on a date, when in fact, they feel very lukewarm. It is confusing to the other person.

Try not to take it personally, and at least be glad this happened after date #1 and not date #12.

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Registered: 11-25-2006
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 3:59pm

Yeah your right, I would have loved to have gotten to know him better but "que sera, sera" thanks for the advice.


Lisandra

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Registered: 06-18-2007
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 12:10am

I think I'm in the middle of a guy ghosting as well. I've been on 3 dates and after the 3rd, I've not had any email, text or phone call. He did say he was going out of town but he has a blackberry that is attached to his hand like an appendage. As in the words of HJNTIY, if he's not calling you...
It is disappointing, as I really thought things were going well. We had great chemistry and seemed to be on the same path in our lives. If I don't hear from him this week at all, then I'll know for sure he's not interested, and not just busy. I thought I might send him an email later on in the week to ask how things are going, but now I'm not so sure. I really don't want to deal with another disappointment of not getting an answer.

Never give all the heart, for love...
If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
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Registered: 11-25-2006
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 8:30pm

Hi jorgee,


just wanted to know how your doing? Has he gotten in contact with you? I wish you all the luck in the world!


Have faith your sidekick will come along.


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Registered: 06-18-2007
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Wed, 04-14-2010 - 9:33pm
I was just reading this reply when the phone rang. It was him!! :) We're going out again Friday night. So now the question is, do we have "the talk?"
Never give all the heart, for love...
If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
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In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 1:55pm
why ask why? Next!!!

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Registered: 11-08-2003
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Sat, 04-17-2010 - 8:51am
I hope you enjoyed the date and didn't "have the talk". He told you he was busy for a bit and then called. I don't see anything to talk about other than how was the trip/business.
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In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Sat, 04-17-2010 - 12:29pm
No "talk" - and you're right, there was no reason to have it really. It's my over-analytic mind at work!
Had a nice time and we're playing it by ear for the next few weeks. I'm thinking this is the way I should have been approaching dating all along! Much less stressful!
Never give all the heart, for love...
If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.