Why am I so unlucky??
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| Tue, 08-30-2005 - 7:46am |
Hi everyone, I hope someone can help me with this. '
I had met a really nice guy on eharmony over a month ago. We hit it off great. For a month we talked for hours on the phone. We had 3 dates, which all went well. After the 3rd date, he cancelled a date we had during the week, the weekend he was going to see his parents, then he said he would call Sunday. Sunday came, no call, and then he just closed communication with me, no explanation nothing. (this was 2 months ago).
My friend said I should join match, which I did. I found his profile on match, I viewed it, and then he has hidden himself. Nice guy huh??
I don't consider myself ugly by any means, I am not beautiful, but not ugly. But since I have been on match, I have not gotten a wink, email, nothing. I have my photo posted too. I hear people get so many responses on there, but for me, 2 weeks, nothing.
Can someone maybe explain whats going on?
Thank you, this is really depressing.

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You are not alone. There are many people (men & women) who get really frustrated from OLD. You will need to give it a little more time. And, please, be optomistic!
I'm going to get corny here. As far as that man goes, "This is fate's way of saying to you that you two were not meant to be & that there IS someone out there waiting for you." I believe in this wholeheartily. I don't expect to find 'the one' on a first meet. It may not come for another 5 years.
Know within yourself that you are a great person, you are beautiful and any man will be lucky to have a girl like you.
If you don't hear from them it's there lost. Just don't take it personally.
Thank you for saying that. It is just so depressing when they just disappear, why can't they just be honest and upfront and tell you its over. To me that was like a slap in the face. I could never do that to someone. I just feel people should be honest, thats all.
Let us help you... post your profile and you'll receive great feeback here on how to make it even better... You can either copy and paste or give us your username so we can also see your pics.
Sound good?
my user name on match is brneyedgrl43.
Thanks for wanting to help, I appreciate it.
Christine
Christine - your profile is really generic. I read it, and I don't know anything about you.
Put in specifics!!!
Profiles are like resumes - you want to use actions, not descriptives. Now, I'm not attacking you in the following, I tend to have a bit of a sarcastic approach to things - so if it's too "biting" forgive me.
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43, divorced - already part of your profile, don't repeat it here.
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What do you do that highlights these attributes? Volunteer at a shelter? Read to the blind? Get rid of the sentence and replace it with an example of something you DO.
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And the guys are thinking "booty call".
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Really? If you were a patholigical liar, would you really say that? Or that you WANT a selfish game player?
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HOW are they an important part of your life? Give an example..."every year, I meet my best friends for a week at the beach for our own poker tournament - it's been a great way to keep those important relationships going" Or "my favorite time of year is our huge family reunion at a state park in western PA - ask me about the bear and the portopotty".
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Give an example of how you turned around a miserable experience and made it bright. "One time, my car broke down in the middle of the desert. I almost panicked, but since I had my sleeping bag and plenty of supplies, I camped out and have the glorious memory of watching a meteor shower at 2 AM in New Mexico."
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Trite. Can it.
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Yeah, she just confirmed it - booty call.
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You're surely seeking someone who has a little more to them than they are honest and love to laugh? SPECIFICS!!!
Take the time to put thought into your profile. Sell yourself. Put your personality into it. Post it here for critique before you put it up on match.
Or have someone else write it for you like me. LOL
My dear friend Wendie wrote how she saw me and she said it way better than I ever could. LOL
To answer your question, you are not unlucky, just experiencing the wonderful world of online dating! That guy was a complete jerk and he is everywhere. What we like to call a Ghost. Now that you know the jargon, let's move on to your profile.
Your profile screamed couch potato to me. People want to know your interests outside of home and work. They want to hear how you are unique out of the hundreds of profiles they read (we'll assume men actually read the profiles for the purposes of this post).
Do you have hobbies? Do you have quirks? What do you do for a living? Are you born and raised in Bayside, New York?
What you're asking for in a man is what every man thinks he is: kind, honest, humorous, loves to cuddle.
Also, you need more pictures. Specifically, a full body shot. You are very attractive, BTW.
Ditto, everything sisfox said.
Also, check out the OLD website. Unfortunately, I can't find the *(!? link, can anyone help?
Keep trying!
amjay
Thank you for pointing that out to me. I never realized it sounded like that until you mentioned it to me.
I will definitely work on improving it, today!
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