Why do I find all the weird ones

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Why do I find all the weird ones
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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 5:37pm

I have been on Match for a couple of months now.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 2:35am

I assume that those people I find online will be dating more than just me unless we've been explicit about that with each other.

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Registered: 06-07-2004
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 9:23am

I can see both sides of this issue and I do not think there is a right and a wrong way to it. Some people are all about putting it all upfront and simply telling the other person if they have another date. Others will not tell the other person when they have a date.

Its not like the people that will tell, go out of their way to make sure that you know they have another date, but it comes up like "what are you doing tonight"?, then they are honest and say I have a date. I do not think they are trying to rub your nose in it or trying to get you to redouble your efforts at wooing them, they are just pointing out the white elephant in the dating room, that you two are not exclusive and are dating others.

In your particular situation, you had not even met yet and you carried on quite a bit of conversation. I say why mess around with so much texting and emailing before you meet. Just a few emails back and forth to figure out if it is worth meeting and if you both determine it is, then meet ASAP.

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Fri, 12-03-2010 - 12:33pm

I actually completely agree with you with meeting up as quick as possible.

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Sat, 12-04-2010 - 11:44am

I don't find this weird at all, just honest.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 2:00pm

I find his honesty refreshing....we all know when we meet people online that they are searching for a partner just as we all are so dating other people should never be a surprise.

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Registered: 12-04-2010
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 4:44pm

I think that he was just very honest and upfront with you. Dating can be crazy. Whatever you do DO NOT GIVE UP! I found someone and she is the love of my life. I did not meet her until I was at wits end with dating. I met her by changing my whole outlook on dating.

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Remember to always be yourself and that the right person is out there!

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Sun, 12-05-2010 - 12:07am

No, I disagree.

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Registered: 09-23-2009
Sun, 12-05-2010 - 1:34pm

I agree with you. I was turned off by a guy who e-mailed me and spoke to me on the phone because he was supposed to call me at a specific time one night. He didn't. The next day he said he had to help his grown daughter with her college homework. Somehow he came out with the truth that he had been on a date with someone, but she wasn't his type, as she had a lot of tatoos.I, too, know that people are communicating or dating with others, but it should be a don't ask don't tell policy. It's unpleasant hearing about it. I did not go on a date with this man. I had lost interest after his confession.

Maybe some people don't mind about a person telling them about their dates, but I think the safest policy is to just say you have plans if asked. It's nobody's business about where you are going or with whom until you are accountable to another person and are already in a relationship with them. Good luck in finding a good one. I finally did after 2 and a half years of frustrating and ridiculous experiences. In the end, I can laugh about it now.

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Registered: 10-02-2003
Sat, 12-18-2010 - 9:37pm
I think that is his way of testing you out...to get your reaction. You were supposed to say, Okay, cool, and not say anything else. His loss.

So often I find myself stuck in conversations with men that seem to be pre-scripted from previous relationships. All I have to do is give him the answer he wanted to hear from his ex and I win the prize!

You were true to yourself. what else where you supposed to do? I don't think his behavior was weird, either, he was being true to himself also. Good thing you found out before you wasted your time!
sooooobig
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Registered: 10-02-2003
Sat, 12-18-2010 - 9:39pm
Five paragraph email saying how great you are? that is a huge red flag. He never met you. What a player! You dodged a bullet.

And I think you handled it well!!
sooooobig

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