Why do people feel the need to be rude?

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Why do people feel the need to be rude?
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Mon, 07-31-2006 - 7:35pm

My Yahoo profile says I'm not looking for sex. Because of that, I don't email people directly, I wink, let them read it, and decide if they want to email back. It's a lot easier on my self esteem that way.

I winked at a whole bunch of men last night, and a few replied (like 5!). Most were nice, but one wrote this -

"you dont even have a picture why would I want to date a fat cow who doesnt put her pic up. are you even hot? i bet your a fat. r u, some kind of prude? get real"

Now seriously - WHY do people feel it's ok to be completely hateful over the Internet? Would he say that stuff to my fact? I doubt it!







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Registered: 04-01-2006
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 8:24pm
Welcome to the world...some peole are unhappy and miserable and love to share their misery...forget the jerk and move on to bigger and better things in life.
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Registered: 11-20-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 7:23pm

Oh yeah..I had a few chat sessions with a guy I met off of yahoo. I have pictures posted on my profile but when he requested a web cam chat, he got so upset that I didn't have one that he started cussing me out. It was out of the clear blue sky and just completely shocked and upset me. When I tried to email him to find out what the problem was, he wrote back "Leave me the blank alone you blanking blank." Block & Delete! I'm just assuming that some guys simply have no manners whatsoever.

Jeanie

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Registered: 03-05-2006
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 10:04am

Maybe we need a workshop in learning how to read these profiles so we can spot this kind of jerk before we wink at him!

He sounds like an extremely unhappy person, as well as being dangerous. Do you suppose he kisses his mother with that mouth?

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 12:57pm
Thing is, in his profile he sounded really nice! (and educated....)



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Registered: 04-02-2005
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 5:09pm

Its interesting to find how people act once you know them for a few minutes... I think sometimes its that they do not see us in person- the things people say on email to some of my friends (from guys they just started dating)- very sexual- and rather inappropriate.

I don't know what to say other than don't take it personally (and sometimes that can be hard!) Some of these guys say the RUDEST things (like this is why you are single, you must be a fat whale...) You will run into some of the weirdest people you have ever met- and maybe some of the best...

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 7:39pm

You know, these guys are not just rude. They are clearly emotionally unbalanced on some level. A person who trashes you because you don't have your picture posted has obviously got some very strange feelings/attitudes about seeing a person's picture. Maybe he is really scared of being approached by an unattractive woman because it will prove to him that he is really unattractive. And a guy who goes all ballistic about someone not owning a web cam is behaving like a spoiled child. He wanted to play with a certain toy and you don't have it and it is your fault. Honestly. It's not bad manners. It's lack of maturity, sensitivity to others, etc. It's being convinced that they are the center of the universe.

I try to not get upset about insane people. They aren't being "rude" any more than a wild animal is "rude." They are just insane and to be avoided.

Aren't you lucky that he went ballistic before you got to know him any better. Painful as this incident was, imagine if it hadn't been until after one or two dates that you discovered that truly irrational, self-centered streak (and the rude mouth to go with it).

Hang in there!

Elsa

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 12:56am

I would actually write back "Well, here is the wonderful reason i choose on-line dating ... to weed OUT people like YOU".


What a loser.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 12:57am
Now thats scary!
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Registered: 08-16-2005
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 9:45am

People get the biggest set when they are hidden behind a computer screen. I remember years ago I had come home from a christmas party, I was a bit tipsy was imming with a guy online, he sent his picture and I sent mine and he said "I hope you are the blonde" and I said "No I wasn't" and he said "Well you better stay drunk then because you won't ever get a date" and all I said back was I can appreciate that I'm not your type but there is no need to be rude and I blocked him. Obviously there is no way he would ever say that to my face if I was sitting in front of him. Obviously I can get dates, I have had them, I've been married for crying out loud and I don't have a hump in my back and send children screaming in fear when they see me so for goodness sake there was no need for a comment like that. LOL

I honestly think if you get a comment like that it's almost a signal from the universe sayign DON'T DATE THIS MAN HE'S A WOLF IN SHEEPS CLOTHING!!!! His profile seemed as though he was nice and intelligent but he was so obviously a huge cad.

Smile,

Deirdre